Should women be allowed to nurse their baby on airplanes?

So you can somehow prove that breastfeeding in public is "normal"?
Or do you simply mean, "commonly done"?
Then, speeding is "normal", cheating on taxes is "normal", political corruption is "normal"...
If and when you're out and you start to feel hungry or thirsty. Is it natural for you to buy food to calm your hunger? As an adult, you are able to eat wherever you so please, unless told otherwise. You'd consider it a right that in a restaurant, you can eat what you've ordered, no?

Now imagine a newborn child. As a baby, he/she is unable to direct its mother as to where to go to be fed. Sadly, in many places, there aren't facilities (such as lounges, etc) for a woman to breastfeed her child or to even bottle feed it. As ToR rightly pointed out, a lot of places don't even have changing facilities and women are reduced to having to either go out to their car and change their child in the back seat or in the boot (something I've had to resort to on many occasions) or to do it on the floor in a hallway somewhere. And I can assure you, as a mother, it annoys the hell out of me that such facilities aren't available in so many places, but we make do.

However when it comes to breastfeeding, the issue becomes a bit tricky. If you're in a restuarant or out in a park, mall, anywhere at all, and your baby is hungry, you as a parent either feed it or let it scream in hunger. As a parent, I dislike letting my child go hungry. Don't know why, but it's just a little thing with me that when my child is hungry, he will be fed. So while its natural for you to seek food when you're out to eat when hungry, it should be natural that a parent feeds their child when said child is hungry, no? Now the high majority of mothers feed their baby's in a discreet manner.

I've read posts of people comparing breastfeeding to masturbation, pornography and now defacation. Think about it, do you consider when you eat when out in public as being akin to sexually pleasing yourself or others or defacating? I'd imagine no. Do you consider when you eat, that it's akin to you cheating on your taxes, speeding, etc? Again, I'd imagine the answer to that would probably be no. So why do you equate a parent feeding a child in the same fashion? After all, if you're hungry when out in public, you eat if you want to, correct? Is that normal for you? It is for me. Why is it suddenly unnatural or abnormal to allow a newborn who is unable to fend for itself to feed in a manner that is natural and normal to it?

Now unless we do as ToR managed to do, which while good for her does not work for everyone else in every situation, we have no choice but to feed our children when out in public. I don't know about ToR, but when I travelled with my son and he got hungry in the plane, my options were either to feed him or to let him go hungry for the amount of hours we had remaining on that plane. Now if you were in my place what would you do? What would be natural for you to do? Let the baby go hungry or feed him as a normal parent does?

Sure I can bottlefeed my child, but again, why should I when every medical practioner, text, even baby formula containers advise that breastmilk is the best for a child. And while expressing for a short trip is viable, for a long trip, it is not viable as I'd imagine a woman using a breastpump in public on a plane (for example) would probably be seen to be more offensive then discreetly holding and feeding a baby. I've used breastpumps before and there is no way to express from those things in any way that could be considered discreet. So what do you advise women do so that they classify as 'normal' or 'natural' to you?
 
If you read back, I said that women should be allowed to breastfeed when and where the child desires it.
I also said that women should be discreet about it (which it appears the woman in question was, and most women are).
I was simply responding to the argument that it is "natural" for women to breastfeed in public, which I don't think is a valid argument at all, nor do I think you supported that argument.
I suppose it is a matter of semantics, ignore it if you wish, but I think calling it "natural" is a cop out.
 
I suppose it is a matter of semantics, ignore it if you wish, but I think calling it "natural" is a cop out.
It is and is not in a way. After all, pooing and peeing are natural bodily functions, but so is sneezing, coughing, scratching, sleeping, etc. Now we need to eat to function. That is natural. Do you equate eating as being naturally on par with defacating in public?

It is natural to the child to be breastfed unless taught differently. Whether the mother sees it as such is a different matter. Now if someone views breastfeeding a child, for the purpose of providing nourishment to said child to allow for its survival, as being the same as defacating in public, then that's their issue. At present, defacating in public is not allowed due to sanitary reasons. After all, bodily fluids and solids can cause harm to others by way of illness or infection. Breastfeeding a child does not.
 
So you can somehow prove that breastfeeding in public is "normal"?
Or do you simply mean, "commonly done"?
Then, speeding is "normal", cheating on taxes is "normal", political corruption is "normal"...

Yes, I can. Just go and visit a non-puritan society.

If that is not enough for you go and see how other primates handle breastfeeding in public.

Then compare that to taking a shit in public in other primates.

Although, there is a general rule that primates have no qualms about breastfeeding in public, they do vary in their behaviour regarding taking a shit.

It is just a baby being fed.

Moreover, in some cultures breasts are not considered sexual at all.
 
Then compare that to taking a shit in public in other primates. Although, there is a general rule that primates have no qualms about breastfeeding in public, they do vary in their behaviour regarding taking a shit.

Yeah, sometimes after they take a shit, they inspect the pile for any edibile bits that might be left behind ....and then the eat it!

So, the conclusion is.....? If we used the monkeys as our guide, then we should be equally at ease with both public breastfeeding AND shitting, plus it should be acceptable to inspect our shit for edible bits and pieces. Hmm, good and nutritous, huh?

It is just a baby being fed.

It's also just someone taking a shit. No big deal ....monkey do it all the time and it's perfectly natural. As a matter of fact, don't monkeys also masturbate in public??

Baron Max
 
Please provide the evidence that all monkey species just shit.


Did some one mention monkeys and shit?

This is something I have very close personal experience of

Many moons ago I was studying and doing some work in a zoo.

Monkeys manage to shit 360 degree's, it would be on the ceiling, all the walls as well as the floor and branches etc (indoor enclosure)

quite amazing

Monkeys do a lot of things we would not necc expect. I have witnessed male and female enjoying many sexual activities we consider 'foreplay'.

anyway back to boobs on tubes (and other transport objects)
 
OK, I will summarize it:

The judging of the whole action is depend on the society where you live in. The problem occurs in Western societies because the naked breast is considered sexually attractive, and generally not a common view, specially not live in public places. Actually there are laws against it.
By the way any analogy with animals are wrong, because they have a different kind of society than we have.
The analogy with masturbation is also wrong, because it is not an absolute necessity like feeding a baby. The defecation analogy also has a problem, namely that it provides a disgusting outcome. Not to mention both acts are against the law if publicly done.

On the other hand 43 States have laws PROTECTING the right of a nursing mother. It should still be done in as much privacy as possible. Also double nursing of twins is still prohibited, because that is just a show off!!! :)
 
On the other hand 43 States have laws PROTECTING the right of a nursing mother. It should still be done in as much privacy as possible.

As I understand it, the flight attendant simply asked the woman to cover up more, and she refused. So the airline kicked her off the plane.

Sounds to me like the woman was just doing it to be a bitch, then made a big deal out of it in the hopes of making some money from suing the airline.

Cover up is the only sensible thing to do ...anything else is confrontational. And she lost the confrontation.

Baron Max
 
In this specific case I think the mother was right. It was 10 pm, so it was already dark, (less visibility) and she was almost in the very back window seat and husband next to her.

"Gillette took the window seat in the second-to-last row, she says, and her husband took the aisle. She began nursing River, using one hand to hold her shirt closed. She says: "I was not exposed."

But the flight attendant approached, tried to hand her a blanket and asked her to cover herself, she recalls. "You're offending me," Gillette quotes the woman as saying.

"I'm not doing anything wrong and I will not cover up," Gillette says she said in response."

It wasn't even a passenger complaining but the stewardess. Freedom Airlines, no less... :)
 
As I understand it, the flight attendant simply asked the woman to cover up more, and she refused. So the airline kicked her off the plane.

Sounds to me like the woman was just doing it to be a bitch, then made a big deal out of it in the hopes of making some money from suing the airline.

Cover up is the only sensible thing to do ...anything else is confrontational. And she lost the confrontation.

Baron Max
She was covered up. Her husband blocked her view as she sat in the window seat and she was holding her shirt closed. The stewardess did not just ask her to cover up, she handed her an airline blanket to do so. Now those things can heat up and frankly, I'd not want to cover my child's head with one, would you?
 
She was covered up. Her husband blocked her view as she sat in the window seat and she was holding her shirt closed. The stewardess did not just ask her to cover up, she handed her an airline blanket to do so. Now those things can heat up and frankly, I'd not want to cover my child's head with one, would you?

The flight attendant is the "police" on an airplane. The woman chose not to do as she was instructed, therefore she got shit-canned from the plane. Simple for me to understand.

As to covering your child's head while nursing, that's up to you if you can get away with it. It's just like murder, Bells, it's against the law, but hundreds, perhaps thousands, get away with it every year. Ain't no big deal, right? If you can get away with it, it's what you should do.

Baron Max
 
The flight attendant is the "police" on an airplane. The woman chose not to do as she was instructed, therefore she got shit-canned from the plane. Simple for me to understand.
Yes she is the police on the plane. However she also represents the airline and their rules in regards to what can and cannot happen on their planes. Was she representing the airline or the law when she asked her to cover up? Or was she representing herself when she told the Gillette ""You're offending me"?

The airline is quite frank in their rules.

Freedom Airlines spokesman Paul Skellon says breastfeeding on a plane is OK if it's done in a "discreet way".
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Gillette was sitting in a dark plane, by the window right at the back of the plane. She was holding her shirt closed as she fed her daughter while her husband sitting in the aisle seat would have blocked her from view of other passengers. You cannot be more discreet than that.

Now when the flight attendant approached her, she did not state airline policy or list the rules in regards to breastfeeding on Freedom Airlines or Delta Air Lines (Freedom Airlines was operating the flight on behalf of Delta). Instead, she said:

"You're offending me"

She may be the police on the plane, but she is only the police in regards to the laws falling under air travel and the rules of the airlines involved. She is not allowed to impose her own moral beliefs or her own levels of being offended on passengers. The rules of the airline states that a woman can breastfeed as long as she is discreet, and the mother in this instance was very discreet. The laws in the US allow women to breastfeed in public. Which laws did this woman break exactly? Not the airlines as they state in their rules that breastfeeding is "ok" so long as it is done discreetly. The State laws? Nope. They allow and give women the rights to breastfeed. So that leaves us with the individual flight attendant who felt "offended".

Gillette has not stated if she's going for compensation. What she does want is for both airlines to state their policies regarding breastfeeding which allow women to discreetly feed their children without being harrassed by the airline staff. Can't say I can blame her.
 
The flight attendant is the "police" on an airplane. The woman chose not to do as she was instructed, therefore she got shit-canned from the plane. Simple for me to understand.

As to covering your child's head while nursing, that's up to you if you can get away with it. It's just like murder, Bells, it's against the law, but hundreds, perhaps thousands, get away with it every year. Ain't no big deal, right? If you can get away with it, it's what you should do.

Baron Max

I totally agree. I suggest giving a taser to all airline stewardesses. They can give multiple shocks to anyone guilty of "indecent exposure of breasts while feeding children". That'll teach them to resist.:D
 
Yes she is the police on the plane.
She may be the police on the plane, but she is only the police in regards to the laws falling under air travel and the rules of the airlines involved.

Bells, the flight attendant was interpreting the rules as she knew them ...and she asked the woman to shield the breastfeeding with a blanket. The woman felt that she had a right to her own interpretation of the rules, and declined to follow the instructions of the flight attendant.

Bells, are you suggesting that everyone should argue/fight with the police because they disagree with the cop's interpretation of the law? Isn't that what our courts are for?

The woman should have obeyed the cop, then taken it up in court. Or are you suggesting that vigilantism and/or anarchy be the law in this country? ...whatever anyone thinks is right, they should just do regardless of what the cops say?

...which allow women to discreetly feed their children without being harrassed by the airline staff. Can't say I can blame her.

And ye're really an attorney? Define "discreet", Bells, in a way that would hold up in a court of law. Then prove to a jury that the flight attendant was wrong.

Bells, should everyone be allowed to interpret the laws as they see fit? And whenever confronted by the police, that they should just ignore the police instructions? And you're really an attorney?

Baron Max
 
This flight attendant dialogue is all very amusing. You seem to all be completely missing the point that none of you were there. That the womans account of events is not necc the whole truth. You assume it is. What were the witness accounts?

Unless of course nursing mothers do not lie. Why is this nursing mothers word the accepted account of the truth?

Reason I say this is that I just cannot believe any woman would eject a resepectful mother from an aircraft IF the details were as the woman stated.

Did the woman react with hostility and abuse, did she upset other passengers and create a scene?
 
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Reason I say this is that I just cannot believe any woman would eject a resepectful mother from an aircraft IF the details were as the woman stated.

Did the woman react with hostility and abuse, did she upset other passengers and create a scene?

Me, too! And that's what apparently none of us know ....and yet we continue to haggle and argue over this incident as if we do know.

I just find it very, very difficult to believe that the flight attendant was a jack-booted Nazi-type who just felt like exercising her authority ...just for the fun of it.

And I think the same basic thing whenever a cop is accused of some wrongdoing. First, I want to believe that cops are trained well enough not to do something too stupid. But second, I hate to accuse anyone of anything until I find out exactly precisely what happened and what the circumstances led up to the incident in question.

But then, ....if we waited for full, verifiable evidence, then we'd have nothing to talk about here at sciforums, huh? :)

LET THE ACCUSATIONS BEGIN! :)

Baron Max
 
Bells, the flight attendant was interpreting the rules as she knew them ...and she asked the woman to shield the breastfeeding with a blanket. The woman felt that she had a right to her own interpretation of the rules, and declined to follow the instructions of the flight attendant.

Bells, are you suggesting that everyone should argue/fight with the police because they disagree with the cop's interpretation of the law? Isn't that what our courts are for?

The woman should have obeyed the cop, then taken it up in court. Or are you suggesting that vigilantism and/or anarchy be the law in this country? ...whatever anyone thinks is right, they should just do regardless of what the cops say?
I am going to ask you a question Baron. You are a rabid in regards to your rights to own firearms. Now imagine you have a permit to carry a concealed firearm and you are driving down the road, knowing what your rights to said firearms are. A police officer decides to pull you up because he sees that you carry a concealed weapon on your file (lets just say it's there). Now this particular police officer decides that his interpretation of the rules state that no one should be allowed to carry a concealed weapon. The officer tells you to give him your weapon because he finds that your carrying it is offensive and against the 'rules' as he sees it. Would you just hand it over like a little sheep, or would you demand that you have a permit and the right to carry said weapon? You consider it your right to bare arms, what if this police officer, by their interpretation of the law, decides that you no longer have said right. Do you agree and then take it up with them in court, or would you first deny them stating your rights, like Gillette did when she was first approached by the flight attendant?

A 'cop' is not allowed to interpret the rules or laws as they see fit. If a police officer orders you to take your gun and shoot a busload of children, would you do it and then take it up with them in the courts? You'd not have a single leg to stand on. What if the same cop said you have to shoot this bus load of children because it is his belief and interpretation that there is a terrorist on board. You'd do it? Are you that weak of an individual that you'd simply go along with what you're ordered to do even if you know it to be wrong? And here I thought you were a man with balls who'd stand up for himself..

At present, it is illegal to disobey a flight attendant. Doing so results in an arrest by federal officers. But in this instance, the woman in question and her family were driven to a hotel, stayed the night and were placed on another flight the next morning, all at the expense of the airline.

Delta provided ground transportation, hotel accommodations and new tickets on another airline, according to Boepple, a Manchester attorney, who is representing Gillette.
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Why is that? If this flight attendant was such a 'cop' and she should be obeyed, why was this woman not punished further? Hmmmm.. lets see, could it be she acted outside of her scope of duty? Could it be she represented herself and her own views, not the airline's, when she told Gillette "you're offending me"?

At the outset I would like to emphasize how seriously Mesa Air Group and Freedom Airlines takes this situation. As soon as the facts were brought to our attention, we immediately launched a thorough investigation. We concluded that the flight attendant in question acted contrary to the Company's expectations. We believe our disciplinary action was appropriate and was taken after considering all of the facts leading to this incident. I do believe it is worth noting that the events described in the article failed to include the fact that the flight attendant in question was young and new to her job. Furthermore, following the incident, the Captain apologized to the passenger and her family and immediately requested that they be re-boarded for their flight (an offer the family refused).
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Ouch. Now Gillette states she was never offered the chance to get back on the plane. But it's telling how the attendant, being the 'cop' you claim her as being, is seen as being 'young and new to her job'. Would you accept the same excuse if the police officer who demands you give him your weapon or face arrest for protesting is excused as being young and new to being a police officer? Somehow I doubt it.

As Gillette admits, when the ticketing agent approached her and advised her she and her family had to exit the plane immediately, she did so without argument. Now the embarrassment she must have felt would have to have been quite tremendous.

Gillette said she didn't raise her voice -- not wanting to make a scene in the current jumpy air travel atmosphere -- and complied with the ticket agent, crying as she exited the plane.
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Hmmmm...

And ye're really an attorney? Define "discreet", Bells, in a way that would hold up in a court of law. Then prove to a jury that the flight attendant was wrong.
And you're really that silly and a enoch of a sheep? You aren't a jury Baron. The flight attendant was found to have been guilty by her own comapny. Anywho I shall pander to your little whim..

Discreet, in a literal interpretation is defined in the The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition as:

dis·creet
adj.

1. Marked by, exercising, or showing prudence and wise self-restraint in speech and behavior; circumspect.
2. Free from ostentation or pretension; modest.

And in Dictionary.com as:

dis‧creet  /dɪˈskrit/
–adjective

1. judicious in one's conduct or speech, esp. with regard to respecting privacy or maintaining silence about something of a delicate nature; prudent; circumspect.
2. showing prudence and circumspection; decorous: a discreet silence.
3. modestly unobtrusive; unostentatious: a discreet, finely wrought gold necklace.

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Hmmm... lets see now, Gillette was sitting right at the back of a darkened plane, in the window seat, her husband in the aisle seat blocking the view of other passengers, baby in her lap and holding her shirt closed as she breastfed her child. I don't know about you, but most individuals would deem this to be 'discreet' under any definition of the word.

This 'young and new' flight attendant acted of her own accord and not with company policy when ordered Gillette to take the airline blanket and to cover her daughter's head with it as she breastfed.

Gillette said that's when a flight attendant approached her, trying to hand her a blanket and directing her to cover up. Gillette said she told the attendant she was exercising her legal right to breast-feed, declining the blanket. That's when Gillette alleges the attendant told her, "You are offending me," and told her to cover up her daughter's head with the blanket.
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Breastfeeding issues aside, any sane parent would refuse to cover their child's head with a heavy hot blanket at any given time. Seems the airline agrees:

Moreover while blankets are available for passengers convenience, we do not expect (and will not in the future request) that nursing mothers use a blanket to cover their child while nursing.
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Considering parents are advised to never cover their child's head while sleeping due to the risk of suffocation and death, one could understand why she may have refused and why the airline agrees that no parent should ever be asked to cover their baby's head with a heavy blanket. Imagine the lawsuit then if a flight attendant, being the 'cop', ordered parents to cover their baby's heads with such a blanket and a baby died of suffocation.

Bells, should everyone be allowed to interpret the laws as they see fit? And whenever confronted by the police, that they should just ignore the police instructions?
You tell me Baron. Would you comply meekly if a police officer decided that their interpretation of the gun laws in your country meant that no one was allowed to carry a concealed weapon even if they had a permit to do so? Or would you state your rights to said police officer like most normal individuals would.

And you're really an attorney?
Actually I am a solicitor. What are you?

I just find it very, very difficult to believe that the flight attendant was a jack-booted Nazi-type who just felt like exercising her authority ...just for the fun of it.
It seems she was and she was reprimanded by the airline as a result. But they admit it was because she was 'young and new'. Cute excuse isn't it?

And I think the same basic thing whenever a cop is accused of some wrongdoing. First, I want to believe that cops are trained well enough not to do something too stupid. But second, I hate to accuse anyone of anything until I find out exactly precisely what happened and what the circumstances led up to the incident in question.
Well it seems she actually may have been untrained enough to do something as stupid. The airline has admitted it and are now implementing further procedures to ensure such an embarrassing event does not happen again.

"We are reinforcing the manner this situation should have been handled with our front line employees. Our handling of this investigation and resolution of any deficiencies found to have occurred were focused on raising awareness of this issue for our employees. I hope you can appreciate our efforts to prevent any similar occurrences in the future.
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LOL!

ToR

Reason I say this is that I just cannot believe any woman would eject a resepectful mother from an aircraft IF the details were as the woman stated.
It seems she did and the details were correct as the investigation launched by the airline found resulting in this attendant being reprimanded for her actions. Comforting no?
 
I am going to ask you a question Baron. You are a rabid in regards to your rights to own firearms. Now imagine you have a permit to carry a concealed firearm and you are driving down the road, knowing what your rights to said firearms are. A police officer decides to pull you up because he sees that you carry a concealed weapon on your file (lets just say it's there). Now this particular police officer decides that his interpretation of the rules state that no one should be allowed to carry a concealed weapon. The officer tells you to give him your weapon because he finds that your carrying it is offensive and against the 'rules' as he sees it. Would you just hand it over like a little sheep, or would you demand that you have a permit and the right to carry said weapon? You consider it your right to bare arms, what if this police officer, by their interpretation of the law, decides that you no longer have said right. Do you agree and then take it up with them in court, or would you first deny them stating your rights, like Gillette did when she was first approached by the flight attendant?

I would, of course, try to show him my permit to carry the gun. If he still insisted and threatened arrest, I'd hand him my gun, get a receipt for it, get his name and badge number ....then take it up again at the police station and/or in court.

But, Bells, I damned sure wouldn't try to fight with the officer or refuse to do as he asked. We, as a society, are obligated to obey the officers of the law, NOT to take the law into our own hands and refuse their orders! To do so is nothing short of anarchy and vigilantiism.

If a police officer orders you to take your gun and shoot a busload of children, ...

That's such a stupid, outlandish, ignorant thing to say taht I'm not even going to bother to answer!

Would you comply meekly if a police officer decided that their interpretation of the gun laws in your country meant that no one was allowed to carry a concealed weapon even if they had a permit to do so? Or would you state your rights to said police officer like most normal individuals would.

I would try to reason with the officer, but if he insisted, I'd hand over the weapon and get all the necessary info so as to take it to court.

Bells, the moment we begin to disobey the police is the moment that we're taking the law into our own hands, and that's simply not the way it can be in a nation of laws and rules and courts. The police can be wrong ...of course! But it's for the courts to decide, NOT you as an individual! Therein lies the problem, Bells. You're suggesting that a citizen has the right to fight, to argue, to resist arrest, etc. ...which is, I might add, exactly the reverse of your idiotic "shoot the kids in the schoolbus" statement!

I can't actually believe, Bells, that as an attorney, you're suggesting that citizens fight with the cops and refuse to obey them?! Interesting.

As you can see, I didn't go through your post point by point because it was so loooooonnnnnnnng, that I was afraid of dying of old age before I got through it. ...and I didn't want my dog to die of starvation just because I died without feeding him!

Baron Max
 
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