My apologies. I thought it was a morality questions which is why I put it in the ethics thread. I didn't mean to offend you and as I don't want another infraction for talking about sex on a science forum, I have asked that this thread be closed.
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My apologies. I thought it was a morality questions which is why I put it in the ethics thread. I didn't mean to offend you and as I don't want another infraction for talking about sex on a science forum, I have asked that this thread be closed.
mikenostic:
No offense meant or taken.
I'll try to be more specific: I've heard so many shitty breakup things being rationalized by "he/she cheated on me!" I've seen so many absurd allegations being made regarding infidelity (a friend's girl-he-hooks-up-with once got mad at him for ordering a drink from a female bartender) I've heard so many people talk about inflicting bodily harm on a person if they cheated, and I haven't heard that condemned.
Shit, so many girls talk about how they'd castrate their boyfriend if he cheated -- and it's treated as amusing.
What I don't get is why we have this open season on adulterers, why horrible, immoral actions are somehow okay if the victim has been unfaithful.
Oli:
How is he wounded? Because she has sex with someone else after she's stopped having sex with him? How does that concievably harm him?
And those are, well, personal. Obviously hers are different.
No offense meant or taken.
I'll try to be more specific: I've heard so many shitty breakup things being rationalized by "he/she cheated on me!" I've seen so many absurd allegations being made regarding infidelity (a friend's girl-he-hooks-up-with once got mad at him for ordering a drink from a female bartender) I've heard so many people talk about inflicting bodily harm on a person if they cheated, and I haven't heard that condemned.
Shit, so many girls talk about how they'd castrate their boyfriend if he cheated -- and it's treated as amusing.
What I don't get is why we have this open season on adulterers, why horrible, immoral actions are somehow okay if the victim has been unfaithful.
Oli:
How is he wounded? Because she has sex with someone else after she's stopped having sex with him? How does that concievably harm him?
And those are, well, personal. Obviously hers are different.
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interesting i would post a reply, but after reading some outbursts i forgot what the thread was actualy about.
oh yeah cheating, if you and your partner agree not to sleep with other people then you shouldent.
i have never cheated on my wife and im proud of that, most men have no self control and cant stop themselves.
peace.
oh yeah cheating, if you and your partner agree not to sleep with other people then you shouldent.
i have never cheated on my wife and im proud of that, most men have no self control and cant stop themselves.
peace.
So not only were you a cheater, but also an adulteress. As it is written: "Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness." - Proverbs 30:20
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We don't care.
Orleander posted an interesting topic on infidelity. You accuse her of telling us too much about her sex life, when she was not. She was asking about whether her actions could be construed as being unfaithful to her then boyfriend. It's an interesting topic as infidelity, and what we all consider to be cheating, is interesting.
This topic is not about you, your problem with orleander or your living arrangements. It is about infidelity. Yes she used herself as an example, and so what? Let it go.
Lack of self control and the inability to commit is not something that affects only men. Women have equally able to be unfaithful.Chi said:
Oli:
All of that would have happened anyway when she dumped him, the issue of her sleeping with someone else (after the fact) would be irrelevent.
And he'd need to man up anyway.
Well yeah, but finding that someone you care for doesn't care enough about you to stay out of bed with "anyone else" is NOT nice.
What does the guy needing to man up have anything to do with whether she cheated or not? The next thing you're going to do is try to pin the blame on the guy..."It's the guy's fault for her straying". C'mon now.Oli:
All of that would have happened anyway when she dumped him, the issue of her sleeping with someone else (after the fact) would be irrelevent.
And he'd need to man up anyway.
no kidding what does that mean........ Listen dude I cheated on you,
just suck it up? What the hell is wrong with ppl???????
Oli:
That's not the point. The point is that you're not really adversely affected by the future sexual partners of your exes.
mikenostic:
It doesn't, and I didn't say it did.
Look, part of being a man is not letting any woman make you less than a man. That was a completely tangental point, though, and you guys are getting all butthurt about it.
WTF is this, minority report? You know my future actions?
That's not what I was saying at all. It was tangental. Jesus.
shorty:
They're bitter, judgemental hags?
Hey, wasn't your ex-husband like, a crackhead?
You probably drove him to it with your nagging.
That's not the point. The point is that you're not really adversely affected by the future sexual partners of your exes.
mikenostic:
It doesn't, and I didn't say it did.
Look, part of being a man is not letting any woman make you less than a man. That was a completely tangental point, though, and you guys are getting all butthurt about it.
WTF is this, minority report? You know my future actions?
That's not what I was saying at all. It was tangental. Jesus.
shorty:
They're bitter, judgemental hags?
Hey, wasn't your ex-husband like, a crackhead?
You probably drove him to it with your nagging.
Oh but some people are. Why do you think there are so many 'stalker' exes out there, that would have no problem killing any partner that their ex takes on in the future. I'm not condoning it, just making a factual statement.
haha. I'm not butt hurt about anything. Orleander didn't do it to me so it doesn't really bother me. But your statement 'he needs to man up' could EASILY be misconstrued as you saying that it was the guy's fault because she cheated on him. You do know that a lot of women that cheat will still tend to blame the guy she cheated on for the reason she cheated.
Example, (provided the girl isn't just an evil cunt) a girl typically cheats because she feels neglected or pushed away by the guy. While the neglection might be the guy's fault, when the woman cheats, it's her fault. NO ONE else's, but she'll still whine and cry saying that it was because the guy mistreated her...blah blah. If she doesn't like the treatment, break up with him, THEN go find someone else(she probably has a back up ready anyway
). See previous statement above.
I agree, also I wonder if a man had wrote this post,
if the women would still be defending his actions?
Alcoholic, sorry. Ever wonder what made him turn to the bottle?
Geez. Why didn't you help him? Why just abandon him to that sort of misery?
And no, "many men" have not cheated on me. I haven't even slept with "many men." I presume by your inference (what fun!) that you have, though. I say this with all respect, seeing that your boyfriend is a member here: GET TESTED!
Geez. Why didn't you help him? Why just abandon him to that sort of misery?
And no, "many men" have not cheated on me. I haven't even slept with "many men." I presume by your inference (what fun!) that you have, though. I say this with all respect, seeing that your boyfriend is a member here: GET TESTED!