How do you expect to communicate with and have a relationship with something that you don't believe exists?
You know, I never knew I had a sister. In my mind my 'sister' didn't exist. See I was adopted. The world went on for me, quite oblivious to the existence of a sister. One day she phoned me and there you go.
Your question has been rather easily answered.
The reason, if you're at all interested, that my sister contacted me was because she knew she had a brother somewhere and out of complete love spent half her life tracking me down.
What you need to understand and remember Lori, is that we are all born as atheists. You, me, Muhatma Ghandi, everyone. We have zero knowledge or care about sky beings, and unless we have parents and educational establishments that force those beliefs down our throats we have little choice but to remain atheists. Some become 'born-again' when lifes turmoils become too much to handle, but for the majority of us it all comes down to evidence. It's the reason very few people believe in leprechauns.
Now, to answer your question in another manner..
Would it not be normal for someone who finds god to have been, for a while, a non-believer? It is in the asking, "god are you there?" that would turn a non-believer like myself into a believer - and yet it has failed. You can make up a million and one excuses to try and change that fact but it doesn't.
That's all there is to it. As much as I beg, plead and ask for leprechauns to give me a sign. The same is true of god - your god, someone elses god, the roman god - it doesn't make a difference, the outcome is always the same.
When a man is ill he prays to god.. and dies from his illness
When a man is stuck in a flood he prays to god.. and drowns
etc..
When a man is ill he buys some medicine.. and gets better
when a man is stuck in a flood he gets a boat.. and sails off.
The simple fact of the matter is that the latter works whereas the former never does. No disrespect, but the proof is in the pudding.