Ah, so it's perfectly acceptable for Lori to lie, deceive and call us names, tell us how to live our lives based on her psychotic religion, but we aren't being "polite"
Puuulleeeeeze!
what defines marriage?
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Ah, so it's perfectly acceptable for Lori to lie, deceive and call us names, tell us how to live our lives based on her psychotic religion, but we aren't being "polite"
Puuulleeeeeze!
Ah, so it's perfectly acceptable for Lori to lie, deceive and call us names, tell us how to live our lives based on her psychotic religion, but we aren't being "polite"
Puuulleeeeeze!
i'm not telling you how to live, i'm telling you how i live. and instead of conveying how you live and why, you're attacking my decision making process, because mine involves god, and you love to hate on people who believe in god.
isn't that right?
because god is not religion, nor religious.
well i'm not jewish either. i don't eat kosher meat, i don't observe the sabbath, i don't wear religious costumes of any sort, and i don't sacrifice animals. jesus is "the way". and it's my opinion that if god really puts that much emphasis on the ceremony, that he would have emphasized that in his word, just like he did with all of the rules regarding sex.
you think it's bullshit because you don't believe that god could possibly exist, so you equate it with wishful thinking. what someone wants to believe for whatever reason. perhaps to make themselves feel better. but when god actually changes you to the point where you know it's god that did it, and you understand why, it's real. there is a real and observable, measurable change that occurs. because as your perception changes, it's inevitable that your behavior changes respectively.
no, i know what it's like to talk to myself. everybody has some dialog bouncing around in their head, and when something interjects itself into that, you know it.
that is incorrect. the reason my perception and behavior has changed is because god did not agree with me. when i was younger, i was what religious and society alike would call a slut. i was ignorant and i knew that. and i wasn't pretending i had any answers, and i wasn't willing to just accept the answers found in religion or in societal standards. so i learned the hard way, and that's just fine with me.
because now i know, and that has made the most impactive difference in my life.
i think it's right to say that according to scripture, you are married to whomever you have sex with, and if you have sex with someone else, it's adultery. adultery seems to be grounds for divorce, so you could also say that myself and husband or husbands in the past have been adulterous many times over and are divorced.
i say, that because of what i've done, i know you can have sex without making a covenant, and i know you can take part in a ceremony, and recite vows that you don't really mean, or don't honor.
and i wasn't willing to do those things ever again, even if that meant i would not have sex or be married again.
i was not willing to have sex with someone without making that covenant, and i was not willing to have sex with anyone who was not making that covenant, and for the same reasons i was.
i was talking to my husband about it today, and he said, that while our ceremony was a nice way to celebrate, or reiterate that covenant or those vows, that he had actually made that covenant and took those vows the first time we had sex, and he knew that we could be making a baby. he had decided that he wanted me to be his wife and the mother of his children at that time, and he demonstrated it.
i agree with the fact that it should be just a matter of trust..ie..someone says they love you and want to spend the rest of their life with you, you should not need any paperwork to prove that..but.. being human we need all the assurance we can get..
that piece of paper does give us a little assurance (not as much as it used to..) it is still no guarentee that you will be together for life.
the responsibility (whether you get married or not) falls to each of us individually to be sure that it is the right person
IMO
Mental,emotional,physical,spiritual, if all these needs are met by the other person. marry them.
too much focus on any one of these will result in an unbalanced relationship, and someone will get tired of it..
my no.1 rule in any relationship (not just romantic ones);
No Slams and look out for "never" and "always"..
remember this and anything can be worked out..
that is so sweet Lori!!!
i said that..
has been single for awhile because he doesnt wanna go out and find a girl
um..i don't think that one is very hard to figure out...
because they are only in it for what they can get..if they don't get it, they are gone..or they are too messed up to take a chance with me..or i didnt do what god wanted me too..or im too lazy..or im too old..or "insert excuse here"....
i said that..
um..i don't think that one is very hard to figure out...
because they are only in it for what they can get..if they don't get it, they are gone..or they are too messed up to take a chance with me..or i didnt do what god wanted me too..or im too lazy..or im too old..or "insert excuse here"....
of u don't wanna take the chance!!! Stop being so dam pickey!! ur gettin to old and ur not hot enuff to be pickey! stop going after the "MILFS" and go for the ones that seem to be interested!
heeheehee...this is funny.
he's soooo pickey its not even funny Lori!! he wants a girl (not trying to say he likes you but using u as an example) that has ur body type. looks like a supermodel. cooks, cleans, has her own job, does accounting on top of it, and wants a girl with a min age of 20(can be debated)... its NEVER going to happen!! So I gave him a rule, noone under 39 can be considered.. its so stupid! he doesnt want a chubby lady, yet everyones chubby!!! and he's not one to talk... his breath is repulsive!! and I tell him that ALOT! he just needs to stop being picky....
maybe he's setting himself up on purpose.
i think it's good to be picky when choosing a mate in regards to some things, but i don't know if they're the things you mentioned necessarily.
this is a bit off topic but if his breath is chronic it may be because he needs dental work, or has some digestive tract disorder.
I don't think this is correct, no religious laws are retroactive. ie if you decide to adopt a religion, you cannot change what has gone before. If you want to become a Buddhist are you still forced to be a Christian because you were baptised? If you decide to become Jain and give up meat does this negate all the meat you already ate? Its when you adopt a religion that you decide to follow its laws. Otherwise anyone settling down to a committed relationship should go back to the first person they let down.
Hence, your current marriage is a sham and you both will fry.
Yes, the demonstration was fornication out of wedlock. If, and when you get divorced, you'll probably fuck someone else then and so will he, and then you'll both attempt to justify that, just like most other Christians who get married and divorced as they see fit.
Bullshit. Anyone can believe any religion they want and it won't matter one iota what went on before. People don't adopt religions, they are adopted by religions when they are born into a family that was already indoctrinate previously.
none of what you're saying here is true. it's simply wishful thinking on your part.
apparently you equate wedlock to a religious ceremony, and i don't. it's not like i'm surprised. you don't seem to be the deep and meaningful type at all. even though you're an atheist, you are still the most religious person i know. that's a bad thing.