I didn't. I am just explaining why women don't want to be with men, and then this has turned into an issue of why I am being rejected by women. I can't get rejected by women if I am not meeting any of them to begin with, I know why I am still single.
Layman, if I may interject once again: I think deep down, though you tell yourself you would like to be with someone (we're all programmed to), you really don't want to be because, if you did, you would be with someone by now. When you express the fear that there are things wrong with you that women would reject you for, what that really is is you unconsciously rejecting those kinds of women. If you observe couples closely you might see that many men and women still interact, meet and pursue relationships with each other despite these and many inadequate and unsavory dating conditions. How do they do it? It's because they are willing to endure the trials to get what they want, to achieve whatever relationship they are looking to achieve. I'm not saying they are right and you are wrong. I think because many are just looking for a superficial relationship, they are not concerned with the intellectual quality or deeper compatibility of the exchange and may suffer because of that later. You don't want to suffer and there's nothing wrong with that.
But what I'm getting to is that you wrap your head around the possibility that it's you who doesn't want the relationship. Your explanation of why women don't want to be with men is really why you don't want to be with those kind of women. The reason you are even seeing and anticipating these kinds of women (and I don't deny they exist - our society is filled with such shallow women and men), is because your subconscious is trying to tell you that you are not attracted to these kinds of women. And I think the problem is exacerbated by the fact that you may have not explicitly defined to yourself your standards and exactly what kind of woman to which you are attracted. The way you are writing, it sounds like you are lumping all women together and as if there is no woman you would reject, if only they gave you the time of day.
You need to have firmly defined standards for yourself. Are you able to quickly write off in your mind or inwardly reject a beautiful woman if her morality or intelligence doesn't live up to your standards in those two categories? If you're going to melt every time a beautiful woman is near you who is normally attracted to assholes or the kind of person you're not, then you're going to be very miserable. You have to keep defining and refining the kind of woman that you will allow yourself to be officially attracted to. You have to keep narrowing it down until you are not attracted to women who are not attracted to you. You have to learn how to spot them and cross them off the list when you detect them. If your main complaint is the shallowness of the women who would reject you, you have to grant the kind of woman who wouldn't be shallow about you the moral high ground and you have to give that morality high marks and the reward of your attraction and you have to inwardly give the women who fail to live up to that morality F's.
This, I think, will help you with how you process rejection internally and transform vulnerability and suffering into personal preference and standards. It builds a stiff upper lip because now you allow yourself to not be attracted to every beautiful woman.
At this point, I anticipate you will respond to the effect of "What good will it do to define stricter standards for myself if women don't want to be with me anyway?"
Firstly, you don't want to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with you anyway. Obviously.
But at a still deeper level, no one really wants to be with anyone. And this is I think at the root of your discontentment. You've made the very, very common mistake that happiness lies outside of ourselves. It's a cliche, but you are not going to find the quality of happiness with someone else than you can with just yourself. No one can. That's the mistake we all make. You are looking for the contentment you already have by yourself and you don't see it and what's making you unhappy about it is the culture and customs that say you should be unhappy about it. Why do you think the wisest among us, the Buddhist monks and nuns go off to meditate and live celibate lives? Because they know something about contentment.
That doesn't mean you shouldn't hope to find someone that enhances your contentment. But you need not be fearful of it not happening and certainly not in a mad rush to make something "work" that will, ultimately, subtract from your contentment, when everyone's most contented state has always been when we are by ourselves with nature.
Contentment I've always described as an equation with variables. It can either be a simple equation or a complex equation. People are the variables in our contentment equation. The more variables in the equation, the more complex it becomes and the harder it is to solve. When you're alone, all you have to think about is your own contentment. When you're with someone, your happiness equation suddenly must now be solved for two. When you meet her family, the equation gets bigger and so on...
So the issues we all have with people are not indicative of our "faults" or who we are but it is the nature of a complex system.
The solution is to simplify your equation. The simplest equation is yourself. Look at your own experience. When are you unhappy? When you're thinking about other people and your relationship to them.
You don't need someone to be happy. You need someone to be unhappy.