Bells:
It is far less shameful for a woman to be beaten by a man, than for a man to be beaten by a woman. Of course, I expect her not to tolerate being abused, either. But I do not encourage women beating, I discourage it.
And yet you encourage the abuse of the male by his spouse or partner. The inherent sexism in your outlook is disheartening, but not uncommon.
Then stand up to her without forcing her out. Or present evidence that she is a cruel and unfit mother.
Present evidence to who exactly? Your lawyers? The court? Both of whom will ask this question:
"Why did you fail to contact the police at any time?"
And your answer would be? "Because I am a real man"?
Throw her out of the house without the children and contact a lawyer.
Refer to above.
I would stand up for myself and tell her to keep her cotton picking hands off me and show me the proper respect. If she refused, I'd throw her out of the house and contact my lawyer post-haste.
Again, refer to above. As a lawyer, I can assure you, that would be my first question. "Did you call the police?".. "Did you have the abuse documented with police reports, photos of your injuries, keep a diary or mark down when she abused you, seek medical attention for any of your injuries, contact the police at any time or even now?"..
LOL. Calling the police for a woman beating me up? Excuse me, but I have dignity. I'd expect the police officer to rightfully tell me to go fuck myself for wasting his time.
Did you know, that in times not far gone, the police would react in the same way if a woman was being abused and called them for help? Domestic issues were meant to be resolved between the parties only. Thankfully, we have moved past that stage and realised that some people need and deserve help and the law is on their side.
If you had dignity, you would report her to the police, contact your lawyers and start child custody proceedings immediately. Have her removed and barred from the house and from having access to the children. To do all of that, you'll need to have contacted the police and frankly, the courts would find it strange that not once did you bother to seek police intervention during the periods of abuse. Attitudes such as "because I'm a real man and not weak" won't wash.
A man who permits his woman to get away with murder deserves the consequences. I'd act before such would happen. No woman of mine has ever flagrantly treated me with disrespect. I am not so in love, or so subserviant, as to permit a woman to trample over my pride and respect. Even if she had a pair of knockers that make Dolly Parton's look like crap in comparison.
Again, it is attitudes such as yours that make the issue of male victims of domestic violence a persistent issue. It goes largely unrecognised because men are too afraid to come forward. But hey, 'you da man'! And yes, that was sarcasm.
Even children are not worth living without respect for one's self. Why does one deserve the love and admiration of one's child? I would consider it abusive, especially to a son, to see his father be a whipping boy.
It is obvious you don't have children. I can assure you, as a parent, if someone ever threatened my children and the only way to save them was for me to eat shit, I'd be asking them for a fork before digging in. One does not "deserve" the love and admiration of one's child. One has to earn it and then work to keep it. I'd die for my children without even having to think about it first. Do you know why? Because their heath, wellbeing and happiness takes precedence over everything else in my life. And if by some chance my husband ever threatened me or beat me and my children. I'd have his backside in a jail cell before he could even recite is name and date of birth.
A son would have more respect for his father if he saw his father standing up for himself and his family by contacting the police and having his abusive mother removed from their home than seeing his father beat the living hell out of his mother. Which do you think would set a better example to a young boy?
In fact, it is telling that Freud hated his father for not retaliating against a man who mocked him and threw his hat into the mud for being a Jew.
Freud also posited the Oedipus complex theory. Enough said really.