yeah ok some people who do abuse were abused themselves, but majority do not abuse!
I spent most of my life working for a municipal government. My wife was a social worker. I knew people who were cops, medical professionals, probation officers and detectives. They all said the same thing: Most abusers were abused, and most people who were abused either become abusers or spend their whole lives struggling to suppress it. They studied the family histories of a statistical sample of men in prison, and something like 99% of them had been abused by their father or other guardian. The correlation is too strong to ignore.
Not to hit is a bad concept. Sometimes you do need to hit.
I don't necessarily agree with your reasoning, but I do agree that it's probably not a good experience for a child to grow up without
ever being hit. He learns that no matter how badly he behaves, no matter how he treats people, he can never make someone angry enough that they'll hit him. That is a dangerous lesson.
Still, I interpret that to mean if you get so angry that you hit your child two or three times during his life, I can forgive you for just being human. But if you do it deliberately as "punishment," you're setting a bad example because he learns that violence is an acceptable way to express authority. And if you do it more often than once every few years, you need to learn how to control your own anger.
Also here is a ponderable: Who is more violent, today's generation or the one 40 years ago? Because there was more physical punishment 40 years ago, so if your answer was today's generation, you might have to wonder.
Have you ever heard of the classic fallacy,
post hoc ergo propter hoc? In English, "correlation implies causation?" There are so many differences between life today and life forty years ago when I was just starting my career. Everyone had a sense of hope then. (At least Americans, obviously not the Vietnamese or the Czechs.) Today kids look at the world and wonder if they'll ever have a career, if they'll have to live with their parents until they die, if their government is going to continue making one billion Muslims angry so that anti-American terrorism increases.
Kids today have lots of reasons to "act out."