how many men/boys try to "impress a women to get her to have sex with him or go out with him" ?
= manipulation
Quite a few. But that doesn't refute my point. If a woman is attracted to you based on your natural charm, there's no manipulation. She's attracted to you, that's all.
yes but i can simply put on a personality like some people put on an accent.
i do have a natural personality but i rarely let it out of the bag in public as most people cant deal with it because it is too intellectually smart and androgynous which upsets a vast majority of people around me
very few people are switched on enough to understand my normal personality as i like to joke about allot and use sarcasm and move on various different levels touching on lots of different aspects of things many people need a leg up to even propose as a point for discussion.
thus i "cant" be myself to interact otherwise i cant interact..
it is like speaking a language they don't understand.
highly intelligent people understand me who have worldly experience.
but for the majority of society i need to change my personality to allow them to understand basic conversation and for them not to end up standing there feeling stupid and then attempting to hit out at others because they feel emotionally vulnerable...
you see... things have a cascading effect.
Too intellectually smart. You sound smug and egotistical, and I haven't even met you. Think about this for a second; in these conversations are you talking to people, or talking down to them? There is a big difference, and well...not everyone likes an egotistical fuck. I'm not going to judge you though, I am after all just referring to a message.
If you seriously can't talk about your own, then I feel for you, I hit the same snag 90% of the time. In that case, humor helps a bit. And if a chick likes you, then she'll be interested in your interests. That's always cool...
this is "reality" i am talking about not "idealistic little paradigms of "everyone is nice and well balanced" bullshit.
Yep. People suck.
i am naturally charming with nice people(people i like who don't have any observable outward sexual dysfunctions).
Well there you go. You'll have a girlfriend as soon as you find a nice person.
indeed... perception of preconceived actions being defined as a nature of personality = set of rules.(observer effect defines this)
Well, my anthropology's a little rusty, but I'll take your word for it. Although set of rules? What does that even mean?
absolutely !
but not many... in fact sweet fuck all.
i have found over the years i have to gradually allow people to see my personality as time goes on or they go all weird.
Quiet is a personality type too. You might just be a queit person.
if personality involves actions to define it then where does one draw the line of interaction with another to define ones self as being true but not intrusively/offensive ?
charm can be offensive to some people as if you are asking them to bend over and drop their pants while you do them from behind.'
I don't think personality is necessarily based on how you interact with others. I would think personality is based more on your motives behind those actions, and the only person who understands that is you. Why would you define your own personality? You'll never fit 100% into any category unless you're trying to because everyone's unique in some way.
What's wrong with being a little offensive? If someone asks for your opinion, be honest. If no one asks and you think you're opinion might be offensive, say nothing. Why be an asshole when no one's asking you?
And I can't speak for everyone, but I respect people when they give me their honest opinion, whether I agree with it or not. I think quite a few people do.
And that last comment wasn't charming in the slightest.
