Would you give him permission to be with others?
Swinging: Right or wrong?
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Would you give him permission to be with others?
Sure, but if he said one day, "honey, I would like to try this or that" would you then enforce your sexual "hang up" on another adult? I mean after all, he is his own person, right? Who are you to say what a grown man should or shouldn't enjoy?
and that's not what swinging is. Swinging is together. What you are talking about is an open marriage.
There are fundamental things I knew about my husband before I married him. If he was ok with me sleeping with other people and he wanted to do so as well, I wouldn't have married him. Its not who we are.
I'm being facetious to illustrate that that type of reasoning only goes so far.
but why would anyone care about what kind of sex consenting adults have? Why make yourself morally superior to them? Its just different, not wrong.
whooo... I'm never said I wasn't ok with other couples doing it. Nor do I think it is a moral issue. I think its a confidence issue, and I think its disgusting. I think you said it right Orleander when you said they don't equate sex with love. If they're ok with it, then do it, just don't judge me for thinking its tasteless and disgusting, and a sign of some sexual/emotional confusion.
Seems like a severe lack of imagination to me. Have you considered doing something fun that doesn't involve exchanging body fluids with strange people?
I think we aren't talking about strangers, SAM, we're talking about friends! Big difference, ya' know?
Baron Max
I am the jealous type and there is NO WAY in hell that kind of thing is for me.
I kind of look at the whole thing with not being satisfied with your own partner that you have to go out and explore sex with other ppl.
I can see a lot of problems occurring with this kind of behavior. I also would not be comfortable having this kind of lifestyle with kids.
I see it more for people that are single or childless.
I gotta be honest here and say that I find the whole lifestyle a bit reckless and trashy.
I voted to each his own. As long as it doesn't interfere with my life, I really could care less what other ppl do.
I kind of look at the whole thing with not being satisfied with your own partner that you have to go out and explore sex with other ppl.
I can see a lot of problems occurring with this kind of behavior. I also would not be comfortable having this kind of lifestyle with kids.
I see it more for people that are single or childless.
I gotta be honest here and say that I find the whole lifestyle a bit reckless and trashy.
I voted to each his own. As long as it doesn't interfere with my life, I really could care less what other ppl do.
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Its just something people do. As long as every body involved is on board I don't see any problems. If they aren't then probably they won't be a couple long.
No one contested this fact. Well, actually I think someone said that there was little difference, but I really think he's in the minority there. I think their main argument is mainly that one should not 'give in to temptation'. It's not my view; I'm polyamorous.
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Meh. Is it a trend these days to define everything to the n'th degree?
You either believe that sex is integral to love, or you don't.
Half measures are for hallmark card swapping frilly panty nancies.
What, you going to show a strange cunt to your lover of ten years and say hey, you can lick that but you can't fuck it?
Make up your goddamned mind and stop playing games.
I find your argumentative style to be somewhat abrasive, but anyway:
swinging can involve licking or more then licking genital areas.
They have made up their minds to allow more then is conventionally allowed in either case.
No.
It's right up there with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden.
"You can take anything you want.. provided I approve."
Setting a limit on participation, once the decision is made to participate, is about control, power. Not sex.
Or apples.
*Aside - if you don't like my toilet paper, then don't wipe your arse with it.
if its participation in sexual activities, then it all depends on what the person defines as sexual. maybe they see oral sex as a very affectionate physical gesture, like a massage or a back scratch. so its black and white to them too.
Upon mention of adam and eve, i can't resist making a contribution: "god made the world perfect...except for the evil apple tree. and he made people perfect... except they wanted to commit evil. and he made the angels perfect... except for satan and his followers."