okLightGigantic:
Just to note, I was being somewhat facetious in my argument. Not wholly, but somewhat.
unless of course it is through relationships of love that we arrive at our most essential designations of existenceAla Nietzsche, I'd argue that love is fundamentally deceitful in as much as it changes one's perception of the beloved, often in favour of a fantasy, or of an idealized view. We often love what we want to see, rather than what we see.
for instance a man may be a factory owner, an atheist and a football player ... yet first and foremost he is the father of his daughter and the husband of his wife.
Theistic issues of relationship simply take it a step further by (re)introducing one's personal connection to god
In the same vein as NietzscheI can agree that purgation seems to hold an appropriately esteemed position amongst those practices that one must undertake to manifest holiness, but I'd argue also that even in a situation of purity, the nature of love is to distort by virtue of its value. One must value in order to love. Placing value on something divorces one from objectivity of it. Therefore, it is in some sense, deceitful. To view through the glasses of love is to look through rose tinted glasses.
Existential despair does not always see through clean lenses