Maybe. I haven't memorized every post in this and similar threads, but... BUT... I would be mildly (to put it mildly) surprised if you could "search through these pages easily enough and find all the posts in which prevention advocates accuse that other people are recommending these extreme measures such as segregating social spheres".
Read almost any of lightgigantic's posts.
I would be hard pressed to come up with a scenario in which it would even be remotely possibly to rationally assign any modicum of blame to a victim of violent crime, even in absurd circumstances.
Yet you advocate a prevention philosophy ("it's up to the woman") that
mandates blame be assigned to the victim.
I honestly can't get over this. Okay, the cognitive dissonance is one thing--"I say X, but don't
believe in X, so therefore I must not be saying X"--but where the hell did you learn that accountability and responsibility are such elastic terms? You say women are accountable for their behavior, that they can keep themselves out of harm's way, so where does the idea come from that they are then somehow
not responsible for what happens to them when they're raped?
To put it simply, you can't have it both ways. If women are responsible and accountable for what happens to them, then they are accountable and responsible when they are raped.
This does not detract from the idea that even after all macro-solutions have been applied, even after society has done all that is reasonably possible, after all the education programs in the world... The question remains - "What can I, as an individual, do to prevent violent assault?"
Sure. But the answer is, "Not much." Nor should such measures be expected. Even setting aside the ridiculous strategies advocated in this thread, such as abstaining from alcohol in public and dressing conservatively, why should it be a woman's responsibility to take self-defense classes or carry a weapon? Why can't she live her life with the reasonable expectation that she won't be raped? You wouldn't advise that women shut their mouths around their husbands on the off-chance that he might hit her, would you? Then why would you advocate a woman learning the proper way to kick a man in the balls to avoid rape?
I think if a woman wants to take self-defense courses or carry a weapon, that's fine, but that's not her responsibility. She's not accountable on that. It can't be said that in failing to take those measures, she is putting herself at risk for rape.
This is the question that those that oppose any sort of affirmative action on the part of "potential victims" seem to abhor. I don't get it. Other members have mentioned that the strategies advocated towards rape prevention on the perpetrators (or society as a whole) are not mutually exclusive from those of personal empowerment. This approach is somehow always met with degradation and pigeonholing of the worst kind. "Oh, you're a misogynistic SOB that is trying to transfer responsibility to the victim!" Really? No...
Ugh. More straw.
No one--literally
no one--is opposed to affirmative action on the part of the victim. No one has decried any sensible measures, like being aware of one's surroundings. (Though, and rightly so, Tiassa and Bells have pointed out that these aren't actions that anyone needs to be told) The complaint is against the notion that women should be expected to do something of this sort, because the implication is that if she doesn't, she is culpable when she is attacked. Again, this is where you and bilvon seem to keep getting stuck: there is no way to divorce responsibility from accountability. If a woman must take positive action, failing to take those steps results in the victim being blamed for the attack. And if there are no outer boundaries to what she is expected to do, then there is no way for her to be attacked and not be considered partly responsible for it.
If that's not specific enough, let's try an example. Let's say you advocate an outer boundary of women taking self-defense classes. You say that this is the most a woman can reasonably do to prevent rape. Now, we still would disagree on the basic premise that she has the
responsibility to do something, but at least I'd know you aren't advocating that women hide in their homes until all the men go away.
It seemed such a simple concept many years ago.. We can't stop, or even anticipate, when we might become a victim of rape or any other violent crime. This doesn't mean that we have absolutely no control over our behavior. It doesn't mean that our behavior can not influence our future. Even if most crime can not be attributed to "stranger danger" that doesn't (or shouldn't) imply that we ignore the minority of cases.
And here you are blaming the victim again. Women are not powerless -> women control their own behavior -> behavior influences our future -> our future is rape -> women control whether or not they are raped.
This is the fallacy you keep falling back on, and you somehow can't even see it!
Wow. No offense intended. Just wow. I didn't, and don't want to make any victim anywhere feel guilty or responsible for the violence perpetrated on them. What I also do not want to do is perpetuate the idea that we as individuals are powerless and totally ineffectual in protecting ourselves from life, the universe and everything. As offended as the "anti-prevention" camp seems to get over this simple idea, I refuse to subscribe. Sorry...
Another straw man.
Having said all that, Tiassa and friends make a great point. Pushed too far, the idea of self empowerment could be construed as an attempt to transfer blame to victims of a very horrendous crime, one perhaps without parallel. (Hence, no analogies) Nonetheless, I find it hard to believe that any human could totally avoid advocating prevention strategies on a pragmatic, practical, everyday level. Maybe I'm wrong there. Will someone please just stand up and put this misconception to rest? Please... Just say "I endorse people indulging in attempting to fulfill rape fantasies.' And be done with it.
Any takers?
Your own ideas of empowerment do exactly that. You've made it impossible for the victim to be absolved of blame by insisting that she has power over what happens to her, and by refusing to define an outer boundary for what she should be expected to do to prevent her own rape. You won't even acknowledge that people can't
totally prevent it. To you, total prevention is just a matter of taking the proper steps.