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Billvon said:
Easy. She does not have to do anything. (There are, of course, idiots out there who will blame the rape on her for wearing short skirts, just as there are idiots who will claim she's "living in fear" if she wears a long one.)
As impolite as I am aware it is, I would ask you to take a moment away from your tilting with windmills in order to please apply the above-quoted concept to examples cited in the
topic post, such as the
rape and murder of Jill Meagher and the
University of North Carolina episode.
And to specify the application:
Q: Just how much does a woman have to do before society will stop blaming her for being raped?
A: Easy. She does not have to do anything. (There are, of course, idiots out there who will blame the rape on her for wearing short skirts, just as there are idiots who will claim she's "living in fear" if she wears a long one.)
Very well. Please apply that concept practically, so that we who are initially dubious of such propositions can understand the constructive function you are describing.
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Balerion said:
I'm beginning to think some of the prevention advocates here simply haven't given it much thought.
In 1991, Robert R. McCammon published
Boy's Life. The Second Golden Age of Horror, which began with Stephen King in 1976, came to an immediate end. Stephen King dropped the curtain on Castle Rock. Clive Barker spun into
young adult literature,
oil painting, and generally got
weirder and
more obscure. The change was obvious and immediate; the scary story became the hidden psychopath in the lover and husband. The monsters from within became extraterrestrial species. One guy put down one book that was so goddamn good that the entire genre gave over. It was a moment of both delight and sorrow. To the one, there was this story, this amazing story. To the other, fifteen years into a literary cycle there came that story that everybody knew nobody could beat. It was over. We would not expect to see another story like this for twenty or maybe even fifty years.
No, really, it was incredible. Boom, done. It was as if every major writer in the genre said, "Fuck, I can't top this. Time to change direction."
There is, in truth, nothing I can add to your post. Naturally, I'm always happy to spin tangents. But it also brings us full circle in a certain way:
"I'm beginning to think some of the prevention advocates here simply haven't given it much thought."
That is exactly the problem. And your analysis of this latest twist is one of the finest distillations of an issue I have ever seen at Sciforums.
There are two problems that occurred to me today about the way I have been pursuing this issue. Your post reminds me specifically of one.
There are
reasons they haven't given these things enough thought. I already know this, and it's quite clear that these people cannot be shocked or rhetorically bludgeoned into giving it more thought. And perhaps they might be horrified by the suggestion, but it's not about how much thought they give it in terms of time, but, rather, how broad a spectrum of ideas they allow consideration. And, clearly, continuing to focus on these neurotic outcomes isn't helping the situation.
Which, in turn, brings me to the second problem. I mean, let's be honest. It's seven hundred posts into the discussion, and they are clearly immovable on whatever they think their point is.
I happened to notice this poster, from a 2011 Refuse to Abuse campaign, hanging at Safeco Field today.
Somewhere along the way today, I started wondering
why it's seven hundred posts into this discussion and we're still stuck on this dumb-assed issue. By engaging these ideas, we're accomplishing what they're after.
That is to say, clearly they don't want to talk about real solutions. Doesn't mean the rest of us can't.
That poster. Your crucifixion nail analysis. Fucking
duh.
Rape is perhaps the purest distillation of ideas that dehumanizes a person. In the context of women in first-world societies, it is the most powerful expression of a woman's inhumanity. There is a reason that almost the entire War of the Sexes leads back to this battlefield.
That poster. That's a good start.
Our prevention advocate neighbors are not thinking it through. They are not about to start thinking it through. Very well. How I've let myself get seven hundred posts into this discussion without simply changing the course of the discussion myself is a mystery I cannot presently, and likely will never, answer.
"You can lead a horse to water, but faith is another matter."
So I'll start with that poster. It might seem a small thing, but professional sports are rife with domestic violence, and baseball sometimes seems the banner corps for male athletes beating on their wives. In January
I noted that former Seattle Mariner Milton Bradley faces thirteen years in prison for allegedly threatening and attacking his wife. Of course, I also noted Fr. Piero Corsi, who also made an appearance in the topic post for this thread. He's the Italian priest whose Christmas message to the parish attacked women for forcing men to physically and sexually abuse them.
And as I write this it strikes me that there is
direct action taking place in Egypt, India, and Israel, where men and women are banding together to challenge societal misogyny that is so bad there are mass confrontations in the streets.
And whether it's the women of Egypt and India saying they will not be told men's crimes against them are their fault, or the women of Israel simply having the right to pray, many of the same dehumanizing ideas as we see there are present in the United States, England, Australia, Canada, and other alleged bastions of civilization. This is a fundamental human issue of existential implication.
And sure, it only took seven hundred posts before I figured out that what I should be doing is making them force their way into a genuinely productive discussion. If they really want to play this game, well, let's make them
work to fly their colors; see how dedicated they really are to this dysfunction.
Of all the nails you drove with that post, I consider this the most important:
It is time to move onto a productive discussion.
There is no reason to keep indulging them.
Of course, where do we go, now? Aye-aye-aye-aye-aye-aye-aye-aye-where do we go now?
Oh, right. Like that poster. I'm sure I can come up with more than cheerleading for a 2011 Refuse to Abuse campaign.
Must ... readjust ... sensors.