Nope! Try again.
Nope. But keep guessing. I enjoy your ever more fantastic strawmen.
Why haven't you?
You see, I find this astounding.
You demand that women take responsibility to prevent being raped, yet you seem to believe it is ridiculous to tell the women in your family that they need to take responsibility to prevent being raped. Why is that?
They take responsibility for everything they do in their lives.
But in this instance, you are demanding that women take responsibility for the actions of another person, to prevent that person harming her.
Are you a professional victim? It boggles the mind that you cannot understand this simple concept, but I have known some professional victims who make a career out of not taking responsibility for anything they do. Burn from hot coffee? It was the fault of the restaurant!
A professional victim?
So a woman is raped by another person, you demand that that woman take responsibility for what the rapist does to her and then you question whether she is a professional victim because she did not take responsibility for the actions of another person?
To use Iceaura's drunk driver example. Are you responsible if a drunk driver slams into you as you are walking down the street?
Because you are demanding that women be responsible for a rapist's actions so that they can somehow prevent that rapist from raping.
Date rape? She tempted me; it wasn't my fault! What was I supposed to do?
Drunk driving death? The car didn't keep me from hitting that guy! Other cars have radar systems that can hit the brakes; if my car couldn't stop in time BLAME THE CAR!
Such people generally live pretty miserable lives, since they see nothing they can do to help themselves. But if you do fall into that category I can see how it would be hard to understand the concept of personal responsibility.
But you are arguing that a rape victim is responsible for preventing her own rape.
So you are demanding that a victim of a date rape, shares responsibility because you believe it is her responsibility to prevent a man from raping her. Ergo, you expect women to be responsible for the actions of the rapists.
Personal responsibility when it comes to rape - lies with the rapist to not rape. The victim is not responsible to not be raped.
In your date rape example, your argument in this thread would amount to - "Date rape? She tempted me; it wasn't my fault! What was I supposed to do?" - "Well it was her responsibility to stop you from raping her"..
If she does? I imagine you (and the other rape submission advocates) would be very happy. She didn't fight back, and thus did not make other people feel bad about not fighting back. And by not preventing it she is not an evil rape prevention advocate.
Personally I would be saddened that a woman was raped, and would have preferred that it could have been prevented. I'm funny that way.
But you wouldn't be saddened by it. Because you have argued that it is her responsibility to stop another person from raping her. That is apparently her job.
And you are so twisted around this obscene argument that you cannot even see what we are saying, and instead coming up with this bizarre argument, a la Wynn, by declaring that I and others want women to be raped. I say rape prevention should be aimed at the rapist and that women should never be held responsible for their rape, whether they are in a position to fight back or not. You view that as rape submission and somehow or other, wanting women to be raped while declaring that it is the woman's responsibility to prevent being raped.
You are following the same argument as Wynn and falling into the same misogynistic trap that she set when she asked me if I would rather be raped or be right. I survived a sexual assault many years ago. So I find your comments and your arguments galling and insulting in the extreme. Now I was sexually assaulted by a man who had, up to that point, been a long and very trusted friend. But by your twisted belief, it was my responsibility to stop him from raping me. And if I had failed to do so or if I had frozen in shock, the expectation would be that I had somehow failed in my responsibility.
And that is the issue with prevention theory. You have set no boundaries and have not stated when it ceases to be the woman's responsibility to prevent being raped. In my example, we were in a dark car park outside a fairly busy restaurant, where we were dining with friends and I was going back to my car to get my jacket and he, being the person who declared he would walk me to my car because 'it's not safe for a woman to walk alone in the dark', tried to rape me when we got to my car. I managed to fight him off and run screaming and battered and bruised back to the restaurant as he took off. So where did my responsibility begin and end? Was it my responsibility to have kept myself safe by not walking alone in the car park at night? Which I fully met by being accompanied. However, he turned out to be my attacker, so I failed my responsibility there, if I were to take your rape prevention ideology seriously. The reality is that I would have been safer and unharmed had I gone alone. But then, twisted little people like you would have judged me as being irresponsible if I had been attacked while I was alone..
Which is why I ask and you can't answer.. At what point should I expect to not be raped? At what point should I stop being responsible for the harm another person may do to me or set out to do to me? Because that is what you are demanding women do. You are demanding that women be held responsible and be responsible for the actions of another person against her. And that to me is totally unacceptable.
So you can, in effect, take your strawman insult and shove it.
See my post above on how men can prevent rape. But again, that's all that evil prevention stuff; I know how you hate that.
While demanding that it is up to women to prevent being raped.