Straw Wagon
Randwolf said:
Ya' know, I can't find anything here to disagree with. Other than the supercilious tones that are Tiassa's hallmarks (bless his heart) he's spot on. The only problem I have is the refusal to acknowledge that others are saying the same thing, perhaps in a different fashion.
Well, there is more than acknowledging that "others are saying the same thing, perhaps in a different fashion". We'll get to that.
Asserting that we should do the best we can to avoid danger and harm should not equate to misogyny and discrimination. Or should it? I don't know anymore...
That was never on the table. You're hemming and hawing about a straw man.
What "extra" burdens? I'm not advocating "extra" burdens. I lock my doors, I am careful in unfamiliar neighborhoods, I have "self-defense" under control, etc.
Okay, here's the update you haven't picked up on:
You walked into the middle of a discussion and picked sides before you knew what was going on.
That is to say, this is the best interpretation we can offer for your posts.
But we'll come back to this; I'm trying to sweep the straw into one pile.
Precisely. So where lies the harm in iterating these basic, common sense prevention measures?
Well, when the question is what to do about the attitudes, outlooks, and behaviors that contribute to the rape phenomenon, the problems with IPA are noted, and examples given of the functional challenge of IPA, what is anyone supposed to think when the first thing to some people's minds is IPA?
Go look at the early posts in this thread. The topic post and Bells' initial response denounce IPA for its problems, and the first response to those—Lightgigantic at
#3—runs immediately to IPA.
Now, nearly eight hundred posts later, we've run around the mulberry bush until we're all dizzy to the point of hurling, and the latecomer—i.e., you—manages to save their ass with some assertion that all anyone was ever saying was ... well, to presume that women are stupid enough to need reminding to know where they are?
Holy shit.
Really?
Go back and count all the times people were asked to establish the outer boundary of prevention advocacy. Go back and count all the times that question was dismissed, denigrated, or ignored.
And now here you are, with,
"exercise the same caution we all do when we think we're in danger"? Hey, great. Except don't suggest that's what the IPAs were saying from the outset. Second, given how many times our neighbors have refused to answer the question about outer boundaries, do you have any idea how offensive it is to have you reinforcing their straw men with idiotic demands like, "No really, don't hold back. Enumerate and quantify the exact steps you would advocate someone take to achieve that goal. Be specific."
In the end, you walked into a conversation midstream, sided with straw men, found yourself choking on the chaff, and it's one thing to want out, sure, but don't blame anyone else.
You came up with this POV all on your own Tiassa. Or at least independent of my contributions...
It's in the topic post; it would perhaps behoove you to not make such notions prophetic.
Thank you. Very difficult. Difficult to the point that I do not believe an objective standard can be set. This doesn't mean that prudence should be tossed out with the bathwater though, IMHO.
You're not out of this jam, yet, sir. We'll come back to that in just a moment, though.
For real, right dude? Let's just say that every living creature does what it can to avoid harm and move on, right? I agree... Now what?
That's all well and fine, dude, but it's important, in my opinion, for you to understand why a shit-ton of bricks came raining down on you when you walked in.
And, basically, that is because you walked in, jumped to the aid of a straw army, and then took offense when you were rightly smacked for it.
So let's get back to the straw:
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"others are saying the same thing, perhaps in a different fashion" — Bullshit. Absolute fucking bullshit. iPods and mobile phones? Bikini tops? Short skirts? Rape fantasies about a train station in the red-light district at the witching hour? No. The only problem you have, then, is other people's refusal to acknowledge what clearly isn't true.
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"What 'extra' burdens? I'm not advocating 'extra' burdens. I lock my doors, I am careful in unfamiliar neighborhoods, I have 'self-defense' under control, etc. — Clearly, you had no idea what you were walking into when you entered. Don't wear those clothes. What about that haircut? Drinking? Walking alone at night? Without an outer boundary, the most successful rape prevention measure one might prescribe for women is full segregation from men. That wouldn't be an extra burden compared to the same caution you and I might show? No, really. I don't live that way.
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"where lies the harm in iterating these basic, common sense prevention measures" — Well, there is the presupposition that women are that stupid, for starters. And then there is the minor detail that these sorts of notions are tacitly accounted for. Where the IPAs started is, well, in the world of tells that one was obvious. Furthermore, go back to the topic post and read Simon Tedeschi's article.
If, God forbid, a woman is attacked here in Australia, the inevitable questions about where and with whom she was before it happened convince me more than anything that we are embroiled in dangerous times. In 2012, our postcard playground is still smeared with this retrograde thinking. Jill Meagher, even in death, was maligned by the protectors of female chastity for daring to venture out by herself at night time.
The issue was reasonably framed, I think. But, of course, the first response was to play the role of the "protectors of female chastity", "iterating these basic, common sense prevention measures" suggesting that women should not drink as much as men, or walk alone at night, and so on.
And it's not just Jill Meagher. Let us take the UNC advisor's advice to heart:
"She told me rape is like football, and if you look back on the game what would you have done differently in that situation?”
As Steven D put it for Daily Kos:
Yes, because all rape victims could have done something differently to prevent being raped, and anyone who doesn't 'move on' from the life-altering trauma of rape is such a pathetic, lazy-ass loser.
In the face of such issues, it is tragically unsurprising when the Guardians of Female Chastity emerge with their IPA campaign.
Honestly, I walk around the city in a pair of muckers, or perhaps penny loafers. Hell, sometimes I don't even wear shoes that tie to concerts. I make the point because, well, among your crime prevention measures do you include to always make sure the shoes your wearing are good for running down the streeet as you flee a sex assailant? How about your clothes? Are they loose enough to allow you to move quickly? Do you plan your wardrobe around such security considerations? Do you listen to an iPod or similar device, or use your mobile phone when walking around the city?
All accounted for in the topic post, and, since we're on that point, all above and beyond what I consider reasonable.
Anna Minard, as noted in the topic post, put it more succinctly:
So, to review: Seattleites—and let's be honest, we're talking mostly to women here—as you go about your business, constantly scan your surroundings, memorizing detailed physical descriptions of people you encounter. Always know, down to the exact block, where you are and where the nearest security guard is and the hours of nearby businesses. Wear running shoes and loose, appropriate clothing—aka clothing appropriate for running away in. Bring your cell phone, but don't use it to listen to music or text. And as you walk through the city like a human danger-scanner, walk confidently and keep your face neutral. You're "in charge"!
Is this what an average night out on the town is like for you?
How about an average afternoon?
My point being, of course, that these points have been on the table from the outset.
We might also note the ultimate truckload of straw, that strictly and flawlessly enforced, such prevention measures would have minimal effect; statistically speaking, the closer a man is to a woman, the bigger a rape threat he becomes.
And, yes, Randwolf, whether you intended to or not, you walked in and hopped on that wagon of straw suggesting that one side of the argument refused any notion of self-preservation as misogynistic. You threw your hat in with the crowd that compares women to toddlers who need to be taught how to stay safe. With the folks who think women ought to have some mystical spidey sense to figure out what men are going to rape or otherwise abuse them, whether today, tomorrow, or twenty years down the road. With the folks who promote that a woman should not initiate violence when sexually accosted because, well, sexual assault isn't violence. With the people who think
advertising is a good primary source document.
These are the people you threw in with.
Bikini tops. Alcohol consumption. Working commutes. These are all problematic under the IPA you joined up with.
I think you would have been better served to actually figure out what was going on in this discussion rather than let people like LG, Wynn, and Billvon define it for you. As it is, you ended up embarrassing yourself.
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Notes:
See topic post for source citations.