Re: Date Rape
I disagree however, that "playing hard to get" is extinct, or that utilitarian and romantic marriages are mutually exclusive.
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I raked through my youtube history to bring you this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3ruCaxXrwE
While I agree that courtship nowadays does not always lead to marriage, and that it's done for the fun of it sometimes.The question of "playing hard to get" is a relic of an older time that has not yet died a dignified death. It comes from the time when women were expected to be wives and mothers exclusively; they "played hard to get" in order to not simply give over to the first suitor who arrived. This was a time when marriage was utilitarian, not romantic; a woman's place was as a cog in her husband's larger function.
However, the question of "playing hard to get" pertains to the right of courtship, the exclusivity one claims when entering a relationship with another. It does not pertain to the right to get laid.
In the twenty-first century, "playing hard to get" is nothing more than a marketplace demonstration. You can certainly be charming, intelligent, and kindly, but if she's looking forward to spending the rest of her life cleaning up after your lazy ass, well, there are better competitors on the market.
From a more liberal perspective, the issue recently arose when a feminist at an Ivy League institution told female college students they should find a husband now. After the first shockwave passed, the professor offered a radio interview in which she explained she was making an odds-based argument instead of a moral assignation. That is, if a woman intends to marry, she will not have a better marketplace than while she is in college.
We liberals get it, but the basic objection at that point is that a woman should not simply be destined for marriage.
We're in a different world, now. In its former day, courtship was a prelude to marriage. Now it's a recreation. The purpose has changed, and therefore the rules change, too.
In the U.S., and I would imagine Canada, England, Australia, and other such nations, courtship is not restricted to marital prelude.
I disagree however, that "playing hard to get" is extinct, or that utilitarian and romantic marriages are mutually exclusive.
But doesn't it?Playing hard to get? It's one thing to say, "If you're going to try to romance me, you're going to have to compete." But it's quite another to say that extends to conjugal privilege.
I didn't really get this part.It is my belief that most men would not enjoy the world they advocate. That is, the open-ended prevention theory is so sub- or un-consciously widespread that if it ever came true, men would be really pissed off at women for treating them that way.
I find what you're saying strongly out of context when we're dealing with a crime that women are the (more or less) only victim of.Either women are human beings entitled to the same rights and expectations as everyone else, or they're not.
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I raked through my youtube history to bring you this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3ruCaxXrwE