"No Masturbation or Porn for you!?"
- Thread starter Truenemo1889
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Asguard...chill...some men want control asserted over them and some do not. Love is a test, through time tested, it is not about figuring out who gets the most of the pie, but rather doing the most and giving the most of the pie to the partner.
well...3-5 more years for that.
It comes down to what you can live with. What you are willing to accept or change in order to have this relationship. You better also discuss what the expectations are after you get married. If there are certain rules/ expectations that either of you cannot live with , there is no point of getting married.
I had sex before I got married so I can't say too much on the waiting thing. I really wouldn't want any surprises. I mean what if you find out you aren't compatible in bed after you get married. I also couldn't wait because we were together almost 5 yrs before we got married. I couldn't imagine going without sex for 5 yrs. I beleive in not jumping too fast into marriage. I rather live with someone first and get a good feel of what being married to them would be like.
Btw what religion is she?
I had sex before I got married so I can't say too much on the waiting thing. I really wouldn't want any surprises. I mean what if you find out you aren't compatible in bed after you get married. I also couldn't wait because we were together almost 5 yrs before we got married. I couldn't imagine going without sex for 5 yrs. I beleive in not jumping too fast into marriage. I rather live with someone first and get a good feel of what being married to them would be like.
Btw what religion is she?
my guess would be, Catholicism.
yeah. Good for you! Its nice to have dreams. :thumbsup:
It's about what each partner is willing to accept, and what compromise you both come to. When 2 ppl get together even though they love eachother it doesn't mean they see eye to eye on everything 100%.
draqon, what about when post marriage she expects to decide who his friends are?
Or if he can go out?
where he can work?
ect
A marriage is a partnership just as any relationship is (hense why non married couples call there "other" there PARTNER) which means each party has an equal share in the relationship. This however doesnt go for there own body which i would suggest is a 90:10 split yes you can have an opinion but in the end the decision belongs to the person whos body it IS. For instance i have said i would hate for PB to get a nose peircing but in the end its up to HER if she wants to get one or not, my only choice is if i still want to be with her post one
Thats how a partnership WORKS.
Or if he can go out?
where he can work?
ect
A marriage is a partnership just as any relationship is (hense why non married couples call there "other" there PARTNER) which means each party has an equal share in the relationship. This however doesnt go for there own body which i would suggest is a 90:10 split yes you can have an opinion but in the end the decision belongs to the person whos body it IS. For instance i have said i would hate for PB to get a nose peircing but in the end its up to HER if she wants to get one or not, my only choice is if i still want to be with her post one
Thats how a partnership WORKS.
5 years is not your full life, and you call her/him "partner"...no commitments...right? You want no commitments.
Well that is why you don't rush into marriage. You should be with the person long enough to figure out what kind of person they are.
What this poster may find acceptable may not be what we do. I mean lets take me for instance with my NO PORN RULE. How many men would probably tell me to go fuck myself, they are going to do it anyway. We have made compromises. He knows that I do a lot of things for him that other women wouldn't. So since porn isn't such a big deal for him anyway, he chose to say ok no porn. He figured that there were a lot more good things about our relationship that this was no biggie to abide by. He also plays computer games a lot. I wasn't too thrilled with that, but I also made the compromise because he has made some for me. It's give and take.
There is someone out there for everyone. Some ppl have things that are deal breakers. It is good to know what they are before you even think about getting married.
The most stupidest naive thing is to think that you can CHANGE the person. It will never happen. I tried it and it didn't work. It might work for a while but slowly it will all blow up in your face. You either accept who they are or you don't. No use pretending. Finally I got divorced and opened my eyes a bit wider the second time around.