Quarkmoon:
If a pregnency is so unwanted, why wouldn't the consensual partners use both condoms and birth control pills? Too lazy?
All kinds of reasons. Let me give you one common situation as an example.
Young university students have a party. They get very drunk, dancing and enjoying themselves. At some stage, a guy and girl get together on the dance floor. One thing leads to another, and they end up in the dorm room of either the girl or guy. The girl has been brought up in a good family with good morals, but she has only just moved away from home for the first time to go to college. This is the first "freedom" away from parents. She is young, inexperienced, and testing social boundaries.
Maybe the guy she is with is a little older, or maybe not. Maybe neither of them went to the party anticipating that they might have sex - or maybe the guy did. Either way, they're both intoxicated. After cuddling for a while, one thing leads to another, and suddenly they are having sex. Maybe the girl thinks about the possibility of pregnancy, but decides for whatever reason that she is probably safe (perhaps she has just had her period). Or maybe she is too drunk to think about that kind of thing. Maybe the guy is a bit too insistent, and she is slightly afraid not to give him what he wants.
The next day, they split up. Probably they'll see each other again, but they don't have a "serious" relationship yet, and may never have one. A few weeks later, the girl skips her period, and suddenly she gets a little worried. She buys a pregnancy test, which turns out positive. She is pregnant.
Now what? The options are:
1. Have the child, and keep it.
2. Have the child, and put it up for adoption.
3. Have an abortion.
Options (1) or (2) mean that she will have to take time out from her studies. For option (1), this could be forever, since she'll have to devote time to the child. There's no guarantee the father will stick around. So, kiss goodbye to her college degree and the chance of getting a good job. Maybe she can't go through with adopting the child out - she would feel guilty for the rest of her life. In her particular case, she would be more comfortable with having an abortion. She agonises about the decision. Maybe she tells her parents. Maybe she tells the guy. Or maybe not. She has to make the decision quickly, because an abortion later in pregnancy is so much more difficult, both morally and physically.
This girl may want children in the future. In fact, chances are she will have children later in life, when she is financially able to support them, when she is married and secure. But now, when she has just started studying, is the worst possible time. So, she decides to have an abortion. The decision is agonisingly difficult, but it is the right decision for her.
I end with the question I keep repeating: who are
you to tell her what she should do? Who are you to take away the abortion option?
Will you support the child you tell her she must have, against her will? No. You have no interest at all in the matter. It's all care and no responsibility for you.
As a man, you will NEVER have to face this kind of decision. Yet, you presume you can dictate to women in a blanket manner. You will enforce the same decision on every woman, regardless of circumstances. Because you know best.