Which is supposed to mean what, exactly?
cats, fans, coincidences, and fate.... marriage, love, lust and somone out of town.
And?
cats, fans, coincidences, and fate.... marriage, love, lust and somone out of town.
And?
Originally posted by Xev
Chosen:
Sorry, I have a special program installed on my computer. It's like one of those porn sheilds, but it works on idiotic statements.
So, I could not see your drivel.
I don't believe in labelling emotions specifically.
*Smiles*
See, there you go, you've got the attributes but not the essence. I described to you the search for the essence.
By VeryBadGirl
We talk about the “friendzone” when you first meet someone – that non-sexual, brother/sister-like place where it is hard to move to dating or romance from. You don’t want to get into that because it is difficult to get out of.
But, there is a different kind of friendzone that you want to be in once you move into a serious LTR, because it is the only way that LTR is going to remain happy and last.
Some people have the idea that a relationship is going to be all flowers and dinners and romantic walks in the rain. Or passionate hot sex, steamy vacations and exciting dates.
In reality, these things are not what a relationship is all about. Don’t get me wrong, you will have these things in a good relationship – and plenty of them.
But, what makes up most of day to day of life, and hence most of a relationship, is the ordinary. Sleeping, waking up, getting dressed, paying the bills, taking out the trash, cooking dinner, sitting around the dinner table, talking, vacuuming, eating, etc.
Now think about your friends – your best friends. The people that you know well and who are your allies, supporters, and sympathizers. You accept them for who they are, you would do almost anything for them and you derive pleasure from simply chilling with them.
Because you love who they are, you enjoy talking to them and simply being with them. Since you find them interesting to just talk to and be with, you can spend an evening sitting around, drinking beer and playing cards and have a great time.
This is what companionship is all about. To have this in a relationship, you have to be more than just "boyfriend and girlfriend" or lovers, you have to actually be friends. You have to be comfortable enough to lay around in sweatpants on a Sunday morning eating cereal in bed and enjoy doing it.
Researchers who study couples and what makes or breaks them, say the best marriages harmonize. It is the constant reassurance, both verbal and in actions, that let their partner know that they are loved and accepted despite minor differences or minor problems.
This is exactly how you treat a good friend if you want to be a good friend to them.
When you are in a good LTR, a true friendship must be a central part of your relationship.
Obviously, friendship cannot be the entire relationship, because then you would just be friends. But, it must be a primary component of how you and your partner relate to each other.
In a good relationship, there should be thrills, romance, excitement, intellectual conversations, tingling sensations, crazy sex, wild passion and deep desire.
These are things that should frequently flavor everyday life, but don’t define it.
In the end, if you do not enjoy the simple mundane with your partner, the relationship is doomed to failure.
Is love about respect to you?
Define "love"
Is love about honesty to you?
Define "love"
Is love about commitment to you?
Define "love"
Is love about kindness and compassion to you?
Define "love"
How can I answer these questions without a definition of love?
You're stuck on the attributes, kid.
Originally posted by Xev
Dark Master:
"But in love, I believe it's natural, or ok, to say "oh, I would fuck her, she's hot, but I love my girl so I can't do that." "
Ah, no. It's natural for a male to attempt to impregnate (read: fuck the bejezus out of) every female he can.
D'OH!
I don't feel like writing it out myself, but this post explains it the best, better than I can explain it.
Ok, little girl, you already have the definition of love, it is an emotion. But what do you think this emotion is about?
Do you have conviction of a higher meaning of it?
Xev, I realize that you do not want to be tied down by serious relationships and love.
Seriously, though, swinging around is cool when you are young. You're carefree, and hot. But what happens when you get old? Your sex hormones and that drive will decrease. That is when sleeping around begins to get old. That is the time when a successful relationship (at that time it will hopefully be able to be called a "marriage") will provide the emotional support that you need.
Define love? Hm. Tough one. But I will say that love is the natural emotion that arises out of a man and a woman doing their utmost to support one another. Ach, I will come up with a more elegant sentence when I can.
I tend to sound puritanical, eh? Good thing I have "atheist" posted on my profile and title otherwise people would mistake me for a fundamentalist christian. Har har. But y'know, there are things and rules that would be rather good to keep. Your choice.
Hmph, I believe we are higher beings now and different from animals. And yeah, it's natural for him to attempt have sex with the female of his choice, not every female, but no longer impregnate (thanks to condoms, etc.)
But with life now and with love and thoughts, we can stop those 'natural instincts' and decide for ourself JA?
Ever heard of 'self control'? Something that is extremely lacking in swingers.
? You're not telling me that you are going to act according to all of your physical instincts and impulses? Eat whenever you want, sleep whenever you want, and have sex every single chance you get without a notion of loyalty??
You once bugged me about my being a puritanical atheist. Gaah!!! I got it out of that and figured you were claiming that. Never mind if you were not.
Originally posted by Xev
I actually don't think that premarital sex is a good thing.
Why do you think that Xev?