Bells
Staff member
I say the exact same thing about you, Ophiolite.Not for the first time your knee jerk reaction and stereotypical character judgement have corrupted your perception. This is unfortunate as it detracts from those many posts where you exercise good sense and objectivity.
Okay.. So why can't they do it silently all the time?Hmm... That might be part of it. I think it's just a natural reaction for men to recognize beautiful women. Most do it silently, for sure.
Why do you think it is acceptable for men to accost women, complete strangers, often on the street, to give their opinion on how that woman looks? Without invitation..
And?He didn't growl at her and bare his teeth. It was his way of telling her that she was beautiful. He made no sexually charged remarks in any form or manner.
Why did he need to tell her that she was beautiful? Why do you believe she needed to hear it from him, a complete stranger?
The thing is, a guy won't go up to your wife and tell her she's beautiful when you are with her. There is a reason why men target women who are either alone, or with other women. Do you know why? Think ownership culture. They won't intrude on another man's 'turf', if you will. If another man is there, they will stay silent out of respect for the other man. If the woman is alone or with other women, he won't respect her and will tell her what he thinks or how she makes him feel by how she walks, talks, looks, etc.If a guy walked to my wife and told her she is beautiful, I would agree. If he were to make sexually loaded remarks, yep, I would be upset. I think there is a line between the two. Again, letting someone know they are attractive isn't an insult or an overly aggressive act; however, I agree that sexually charged comments are rather creepy. Even worse are those who follow a woman in a stalking manner.
Do you understand now why this is wrong?
But a guy won't do that to you. And knowing how homophobic you are, I doubt you'd smile.Well, if I were walking down the street and some guy yelled I think I'm in love, I would probably look around to see who she was. Now, if some guy were to stop me in the street and do the same, I would probably smile at the guy's poor taste in men.
Again, why do you think it is important for her to hear your opinion of her or how she looks without invitation?If I were a young single man, and I saw an attractive woman who caught my eye, why wouldn't I say something? Of course I wouldn't assault her with sexual innuendos, but I would be a fool not to at least show some interest if that were truly the case.
See, you keep going on about how it is important for the man to share his feelings to a woman who is a complete stranger, but you are yet to acknowledge or explain why you feel a woman should be made to listen to it or why she should care. Your argument focuses solely on how the man feels. You repeatedly and completely ignore the woman's feelings in the matter and you keep assuming that she needs to hear that she is beautiful from a complete stranger on the street, or that she should smile more, etc.
To put it bluntly, why do you think your feelings and your opinions, about a a woman who is a complete stranger to you, going about her day, matter more than the woman's right to walk down the street without being accosted or harassed?
So you think it is acceptable and okay for you to interrupt and interfere with a person, because you think they should know that their "sexual appearance" pleases you, for example?But that's how human sexuality works in many ways. It not just sexual appearance, but that can provide the initiative to try finding a deeper interaction. I think it's okay to approach someone. If they don't show any interest, let them be.
Do you understand how behaving that way is creepy to the woman?
Why do you think they need to hear it from you or any other complete stranger? You interrupt her thoughts, her stride, her movement and freedom, to tell her she has a beautiful smile or tell her to smile so she looks beautiful for you?But what's wrong in telling someone they have a beautiful smile?
And you can't figure out what's wrong with that?
You can't figure out how that is downright creepy? How it would be construed as harassment? Who are you again? And why should your opinion or views of her smile matter so much to you that you feel the need to accost her to share your opinion of her?
But you don't think such propriety should exist outside of work?The work environment is an artificial environment. It's a controlled environment that, by law, dictates the limits of male and female interaction. Again, if I were young and single, and I truly had an interest in a woman at work, I would be a fool not show it. Certainly it would be restrained by propriety, yet it can be done.
Or perhaps you should just keep your opinion to yourself and go about your day and let her go about her day. You know, respect her space and her thoughts and, well, shut the hell up..Bells, catcalls with overly sexual content are gross. I think we both agree on that point. But if you find someone attractive, letting them know isn't the worst thing you could be doing. Some time ago several women commented on my appearance in a flattering manner. Now, at my age that happens, like, never. So I appreciated the kind words. I suppose it might be different for women than for men, but if someone were to tell me I am beautiful, I would give them a smile in response. It's certainly better than being told you are fat and ugly.
Because that is what it comes down to. Respect. And until you can understand that she deserves and has the right to walk freely without having strange men accost her to give her their views of how she looks, etc, then it is clear that men who do this are unable to respect her as a person and they believe that she should somehow do something to please them or to make them happy because they demand it of her in some way, shape or form.
It's about respect, Bowser and catcalling shows a complete lack of respect to the victim of said catcalling.