Like, duh
Orleander said:
LOL, a female cat perhaps?
You're right, all those other things never even crossed my mind. They are all good theories. I just went with the women only want money/use men thing he goes on about. Like a woman dated him and dumped him for some guy with more money. A faithless women like that.
Well, in something like this the focus isn't always so directly symptomatic. It could just be an easy handle to grab onto.
Maybe he just needs to get laid. But that's all beside the point. The notion that he is insecure about women is fairly apparent, I think, but the reasons why aren't. I would suggest caution, lest we start to think you're merely prodding him over it. And, frankly, there's no need to stoop like that.
• • •
Mikenostic said:
Probably not as many as there are women raped by men each year. What does this have to do with anything? ....
..... I would say none because the last time I checked, men don't get pregnant. Again, what does this have to do with anything?
It has to do with the part of the conversation that you chose to comment on the comments about.
ABS is irritated at what he perceives as injustice against men. Part of that alleged injustice is the Violence Against Women Act. Laws like those are constructed in response to specific social issues and advocacy of solutions. He is angry that the problem of violence against women was addressed, in part because it was specifically about women.
There are a number of things to consider, but two stand out. First, violence against women is a tremendous problem. Second, violence against men by women occurs in a different context related to history. This speaks volumes about the social attitudes toward violence against men, which says much to explain why there isn't a specific law protecting the traditionally-empowered class. Third, men have been curiously silent about the abuse they suffer. This also tracks back to social attitudes and historical contexts. Ironically, background misogyny contributes to this silence. Because of this silence, we've done little specifically about men who suffer domestic violence. However,
ABS' response to the situation is to blame women.
Well, it's part of the sentence. "
Treat her like a person, but don't put up with any bullshit."
What, you put up with bullshit from "people", but not "women"?
Women are people, too. If you do or don't put up with bullshit from people, that includes women.
But there are a few things in that physical realm that I would not consider physical abuse
Fine. Whatever. I admit I find it strange how people explain these detailed standards and then go out of their way to explain that it in "NO WAY" blah-blah-blah.
Right, I get it.
Now, would you disarm a man and then start punching him?
I don't hold women to a different standard.
If you say so.
How is this holding women to different standards?
So that's how you treat a woman. How about "people"?
Do you understand, Mike? That's all I was getting at:
Women are people, too.
Treat her "like a person"? "But ..."?
I grimace at the fact that you sit there at your computer judging me so in depth from a few lines that I type on an internet forum, instead of actually asking why I think a certain way
What? Asking you to reconcile what appears to be a separate standard for "women" as opposed to "people"?
What's so hard about saying, "That came out wrong"? I actually figure that's the case. Because I'm sure you didn't actually mean what you wrote when you said, "I think what a lot of people fail to realize is that just because men shouldn't ever put up with a womans' bullshit, that he should also mistreat her and disrespect her." There's a typo, or a syntactical error in there.
Yet you're thematic about it, too.
A lot of what I say may sound misogynistic, but it's not.
Not overtly. But you're subject to the same background misogyny we all struggle with. You "will treat them like a person"? They
are people. Treat them as such.
Oh, and I love how that even though Perfect was the one that made the comments that I merely added to, you felt the need to come after me for some reason. You didn't give him an essay of a response. What gives?
Because, like, you played the mindless cheerleader, y'know? Like,
duh!
Besides, I tend to think you're smarter than you show. Perfect? There's almost no point in bothering with him. He's harmless, for now. He can go on masturbating without hands all he wants. As long as he doesn't get it all over the rest of us.