Mrs.Lucysnow
Valued Senior Member
The view "say yes to life, all of it", is absurd, as it hosts mutually exclusive options. Life, after all, offers all kinds of things - from having sex to not having sex, from eating banans to eating faeces, from making an effort to choose, to trying not to choose, anything. It is impossible to actually say yes to all of life. Only a madman or a liar would be proponents of "say yes to life, all of it".
But your, and Miller's view is not actually "say yes to life, all of it"; your view is merely a very specific, very choosy way of saying yes to some things, and saying no to many others. It is therefore misleading to call it "say yes to life, all of it".
That's the choice for you? Have sex, don't have sex, deciding between feces or bananas? :bugeye:
Do you know the difference between a strawman and a real argument?
What aspect of the acceptance of life did you not understand? What does it mean to accept it? The idea of saying yes to life is accepting it, to embrace oneself, your nature. Nothing more. The choices you make are the choices you make but you are not speaking of choice when you say that one should only have sex for reproductive purposes, you are advocating a religious based abstinence, not responsible behaviour.
You need to go back and read the post as the meaning has obviously slipped right past you. But actually I don't think you can understand the post because your mind is already rigidly bouncing from black to white 'eat faeces or bananas' 'have sex, don't have sex'. Rigid and without balance.
Have you ever known physical passion? If so did you sit in its reverie and ask 'should I have sex, or not have sex?' Upon considering a meal did you really ask yourself 'should I eat faeces or bananas today?' Seems more like your quandary is whether to 'be or not to be'. Seriously Miller is speaking of embracing ones life and actually living it and enjoying it, no-resistance to pain and suffering, not trying to avoid it. Something you also may not understand as you see ALL of life as a Hell that needs to be 'overcomed'! How bloody anemic! You don't master it you flee from it. Its all a burden and a drudgery. If you have mastered something you need not abstain from it like a bloody alcoholic.
Re-posting:
He was suggesting ACCEPTANCE of all the things we may find disturbing in ourselves as a way of reconciling internal conflicts. So for example, instead of denying ones sexual desires and lust we embrace them. Embracing them doesn't mean we have to physically act on those desires every time they are presented but it also doesn't mean that we have to deny them or shame ourselves or even refrain from acting upon them. Repression leads to the magnification of the impulse and desire. It drives it out of its proper place and makes it 'important', we repress what we fear not what we have mastered. So for example the anorexic feels out of control with food so they repress their hunger and desire for food but they haven't mastered or controlled food or their desire which is why they choose starvation over reasonable, responsible indulgence. Ultimately this cycle of self denial leads to hatred of their bodies, the seat of all desire.
So for example a homosexual who represses his desires because he finds them odious will reject his nature in favor of an illusion about himself (creating further conflict and neurosis). He will grow to hate his desires and externalize it by hating anyone who displays those qualities and even damn those who freely and happily engage in such behaviours. His repression becomes life killing, warped. Finally it limits his ability to experience joy and totality.
Another example is becoming completely disappointed with life and nature because it doesn't conform to our personal morality. So the person who weeps and wimpers over every destructive act will not be able to function in a natural environment rife with destruction, pain, suffering, death and disease (in short change). Instead they will go around believing that the world and nature and the universe should be 'other' than what it actually is. Since they lack the capacity for indifference (detachment), objectivity and acceptance of 'reality' they become neurotic and all of life in its natural flowing form will look and feel odious to him, in short the experience would seem like hell.
As Nin once said "You don't see life as it is, you see it as you are"
Or rather
"Life is without meaning. You bring the meaning to it. The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Being alive is the meaning." Joseph Campbell
Joseph Campbell also put it another way, he wrote:
“The warrior's approach is to say "yes" to life: "yea" to it all.”
So go on feces man! Signal, my anemic mate, I have 1000 different ways of drawing your blood via the word.
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