Did I ask my husband? No, I told him it was something I was interested in trying. He said 'ok' I'm sure there were days he didn't want to, as there were days I didn't want to. But sometimes once we got started, we got into the mood. Some times I just performed oral sex on him or I gave him a hand job. We counted it as sex.
Married couples sometimes grow apart and sex falls by the wayside. This was a way to reconnect. Some unmarried couples focus on sex and not on each other. This was a way for them to express their love without sex.
You are reading way more into this challenge then there is. If you can't do it, you can't do it. No reason to get all pissy at the guy who asked if you would. Its not him controlling you. He never said "do it!" he asked "can you?"