stRgrL,
I imagine you want a short answer instead of the volumes that have been written on the subject. Well, the short answer is to try and understand what motivates people. But that only brings us back to the very same volumes. In fact, there is no short answer. People are complex enough creatures as to defy simple summations, such as your, "Men are pigs."
stRgrL, as much as you might hear other women complain that men are pigs, I hear men complain about their wives. My friends, my coworkers, guys down at the gym,... It appears that every third man in this world is trapped by a woman in a miserable relationship.
It's my experience that a source of confusion between the sexes is that while we often read from the same page, at other times we read from entirely different chapters. Our ideas about love appear to be similar, yet men and women biologically relate to each other for fundamentally different reasons. A fascinating book on this topic is Zoologist Matt Ridley's, The Red Queen. Even here, I caution that while we do have primative instincts, we are not limited to primative behavior. And though we have this ability to override our primative instincts, it's clear that some people don't bother trying. It's a question of individual character.
Finally StRgrL, if you demand that the man in your life doesn't lie to you, you need to fine tune your built-in truth detector. Access not only how a man treats you, but take into account how the man treats the world. You are not merely looking for a man who won't lie to you! You want far more than just that. Find a man of integrity and honor and you will have found a man who will fufill your minimal requirements for truthfullness as well.
Joeman,
Excellent insight, though I do have one point of contention. I think that we should indeed marry our friends. Too often, a man at least, will marry a woman because she has a cute nose, etc.. The best advice I've ever heard an old man give to a young man is, "Choose a wife with your ear, rather than your eye." It's wonderful advice, yet I seriously doubt a single young man has ever heeded it.
Beauty drives a man close to a woman, yet beauty alone is worthless at keeping a man close to a woman. A man is initially attracted to a woman's beauty, but it is a woman's pure heart that keeps a good man by her side till his dying day.
Just my observations,
Michael