why do women do this?

[Oli]

It's not like there aren't hundreds of millions of other available women out there.

That's sooo right.
"You want me? Go away there's millions of women out there."
"Oh you want me? Go away there's millions of women out there."

Yup, I can eat this cookie and nobody'll notice 'cos there's packet full.
Hell, I can have another, after it's a whole packet full.
Hmm maybe another one or two...
Oh shit, none left. :shrug:

 

[takandjive]

What single post?
And what is this talk about fucking, of which this is the first I've heard? :bugeye:

I'd just like it on record I'm striving against the cosmos to not make a joke at your expense.

 

[mikenostic]

I'd just like it on record I'm striving against the cosmos to not make a joke at your expense.

Why? I'm a firm believer in, If you can't take it, don't dish it out.
And I have dished out my share here. I've taken my share too; I've been flamed by several women at once in various threads. If they didn't break me, you won't either. Feel free. Imma big boy. I can take it!

 

[Tnerb]

I'd just like it on record I'm striving against the cosmos to not make a joke at your expense.

:bravo:
:roflmao:
:roflmao:

 

[codanblad]

I've no idea, being a gentleman I'd often offer to walk girls home, in fact, I once turned down a girl who propositioned me in a nightclub, because I'd already promised to walk a female friend home.

But I guess there's the difference between Chris and I; I am a gentleman.

get your hand off it

 

[mikenostic]

I'd just like it on record I'm striving against the cosmos to not make a joke at your expense.

Oh, OT...I keep for getting to ask you this, who's that chick in your avatar?

 

[takandjive]

Guess, clever one.

 

[phlogistician]

I think I made it clear that she led me on to it.

No, you made it clear that you think you were being led on. Clearly, you suffered from some misconception, because that wasn't her intent. So, all you have made clear, is your inability to read the situation.

lol, ok now I get where the seven years comes from. I was not saying I had no relationships for seven, I was responding to jessie's post...

I didn't imply you hadn't had a relationship for seven years either, comprehension not your strong point? It's just you mentioned a relationship you had had seen vyears previously, when you were 15, as if that was relevant somehow. Seems you are living in the past, or haven't grown up.

Looks like you are the one who's not very bright for flaming someone without reading the entire post. At least you can subtract 7 from 22 correctly though.

What you wrote implied that a 'troubled relationship' you had when you were 15 was somehow relevant. If you can't convey what you mean clearly, stop and have a think before you write.

Get off your high horse. You're just some guy on the internet looking to appear self righteous.

And you are some naive child who looks to a bunch of guys on the Internet for advice!

A true gentleman would not advertise to the world that he is one.

How would you know? You clearly aren't one. Ever met one?

 

[Orleander]

.... Granted you have a right to do that, but he also has a right to never call you again; and the thing is, he is no less right than you are with his decision.....

I agree. Who wants to out with a man who thinks it's ok for him to treat me like a slut?

I don't understand. If a women acts the same as a man and is open/honest about liking sex, she's a slut and doesn't deserve to be called again. If she lets the man know she likes him and is interested but doesn't want sex, she doesn't deserve to be called again.

Its a good thing you're not gay Mike. I can't imagine all the reasons you would have to come up with for disliking your own sex.

 

[mikenostic]

I agree. Who wants to out with a man who thinks it's ok for him to treat me like a slut?

What? Where in any of my statements did you get that from?
All I said is that a man has just as much right to not call a woman for not doing this or that, as a woman does to brush a guy off for acting like a douche bag. Did I condone or condemn either, no I didn't. I was just making a statement.
However I did say it was shitty for a woman to up and change her mind at the last minute. Ask any guy on here if he enjoys it when a woman is all wishy washy and can't make up her mind. See how many 'I enjoy that behavior very much' responses you get.

I don't understand. If a women acts the same as a man and is open/honest about liking sex, she's a slut and doesn't deserve to be called again. If she lets the man know she likes him and is interested but doesn't want sex, she doesn't deserve to be called again.

Some guys have that mindset. I don't.
And if a girl likes a guy and is interested, how could she not want sex? Do you she doesn't want sex right then?

Its a good thing you're not gay Mike. I can't imagine all the reasons you would have to come up with for disliking your own sex.

I dislike most people anyway Orly. Believe me, I already have plenty of reasons for disliking most men and the way they act; sometimes I'm embarrassed to share the same gene pool with some guys.

 

[chris4355]

No, you made it clear that you think you were being led on. Clearly, you suffered from some misconception, because that wasn't her intent. So, all you have made clear, is your inability to read the situation.

Maybe you are right, then again maybe not since she said she felt bad for leading me on just a couple of hours ago over the phone. I told her well take it slow from now on.

Either way, that's all you had to say the whole time, instead of sounding like a prick and flaming.

What you wrote implied that a 'troubled relationship' you had when you were 15 was somehow relevant. If you can't convey what you mean clearly, stop and have a think before you write.

I meant it clearly, if anything I should have quoted who I was responding to. Don't bullshit me though its your fault for not reading the thread before posting.

And you are some naive child who looks to a bunch of guys on the Internet for advice!

I'm just having a conversation. This is a discussion forum isn't it?

Always looking for someway to flame aren't you?

How would you know? You clearly aren't one. Ever met one?

I might have, but I wouldn't know. Anyone who would go out of his way to call himself one is just a self righteous loser in my book.

 

[mikenostic]

No, you made it clear that you think you were being led on. Clearly, you suffered from some misconception, because that wasn't her intent.

Oh really? Then tell us what her intent was, Dr. Love.
It pretty much sounds to me like she was leading him on. You don't just up and say, 'I'm not ready' especially after you invite the guy in for drinks and start some heavy petting.

So, all you have made clear, is your inability to read the situation.

I don't think he's the one who lacks the ability to read a situation, especially given that he was there and you weren't.

He's 22 and senses the woman led him on. I'm 36 and by what I've read, she lead him on. You gunna sit there and tell me that I'm too young and lack experience and need to grow up too? :bugeye:

 

[phlogistician]

Oh really? Then tell us what her intent was, Dr. Love.

I don't know, I wasn't there, reading the situation with my life experience, was I? It's clear what her intent wasn't though, isn't it?

I don't think he's the one who lacks the ability to read a situation, especially given that he was there and you weren't.

Well, he was there, thought he was going to get sex, but wasn't. It was him that was wrong, not me.

He's 22 and senses the woman led him on. I'm 36 and by what I've read, she lead him on. You gunna sit there and tell me that I'm too young and lack experience and need to grow up too? :bugeye:

I mentioned his age in a different context, about him mentioning a relationship he had when he was 15. You are convolving different things I have said, please try and get it straight. But as for you Mike, well I've read many and various posts about your attitude towards women, and I think it's best you are single. I find it amusing that you think it's your choice to be so though.

 

[phlogistician]

Maybe you are right, then again maybe not since she said she felt bad for leading me on just a couple of hours ago over the phone.

Sure she did.

 

[Mrs.Lucysnow]

Chris4355: But something really odd happened after she said that... I started respecting her more instead of thinking of her as a one time date lay, I mean she was really chill and told me to take it slow, and instead of getting pissed or annoyed, I thought, wow, she actually has self respect... I kinda like her.

She has self-respect because she denies him sex. He only starts respecting her simply because she denies him sex. Says a lot of what he thinks of himself wouldn't you say! Can you imagine what he thinks of the dumb bitches who actually think he's sweet or sexy enough to take him on? Yikes!

 

[chris4355]

Sure she did.

I have no reason to lie, I could leave this forum right now and no one would ever know me or affect me.

No need to be in denial for being wrong buddy.

Can you imagine what he thinks of the dumb bitches who actually think he's sweet or sexy enough to take him on? Yikes!

I'm sorry but, most men have less respect for women who sleep around, this is not something new. It's not like we think sluts are "sub human", its just that we do not consider them to be people whom we would want to go anywhere beyond a casual hook up with.

When she offered me drinks and led me on to her room, that's exactly what I thought of her, and so would any other guy.

 

[takandjive]

Chris, I don't think you have any place speaking for all men. Some of us hooked up on the first formal date and had it last for years.

 

[mikenostic]

Chris, I don't think you have any place speaking for all men. Some of us hooked up on the first formal date and had it last for years.

Very true. That's why I never automatically assume the woman is a slut when that happens. I've had relatively quick hookups out of the gate last over a year before.

 

[Mrs.Lucysnow]

Chris:I'm sorry but, most men have less respect for women who sleep around, this is not something new. It's not like we think sluts are "sub human", its just that we do not consider them to be people whom we would want to go anywhere beyond a casual hook up with.When she offered me drinks and led me on to her room, that's exactly what I thought of her, and so would any other guy.

You miss my point, the fact that YOU wanted to have sex with her and then YOU wanted to judge her badly if she were willing to have sex with YOU, says more about YOU and what you think of yourself than it is any indication of her character, that's all.

I would see your point if you had said she taken you over to the bed on the first date but you didn't. You said you made a motion to take it to the bed and then she said she wanted to wait. She didn't initiate the sex you did. You initiated it because it was something you wanted and then its as if you were going to blame her if she had decided she wanted to also.

Get it now?

Based on your theory she should decide to never see you again because you showed an undiciplined and indiscriminate nature by trying to have sex with her before you even had the chance to know whether her hole deserved it or not. Based on your theory she should judge you and your weenie should fall off because its just plain nasty! I mean you are the man-slut who was going to 'sleep around' on the first date.

Haha, just joking of course but you see my point right?

You're American right? I bet you're American.

Puritans.

 

[mikenostic]

Chris:I'm sorry but, most men have less respect for women who sleep around, this is not something new. It's not like we think sluts are "sub human", its just that we do not consider them to be people whom we would want to go anywhere beyond a casual hook up with.When she offered me drinks and led me on to her room, that's exactly what I thought of her, and so would any other guy.

Ok so at that point when she invited him in and offered her drinks you do think she's leading him on, but

I would see your point if you had said she taken you over to the bed on the first date but you didn't. You said you made a motion to take it to the bed and then she said she wanted to wait. She didn't initiate the sex you did. You initiated it because it was something you wanted and then its as if you were going to blame her if she had decided she wanted to also.

you magically change your tune at the point that you automatically assume that going over to the bed was Chris' idea. Here's the exact content of the OP concerning that..

move towards the bed only to hear her say "no, im not ready yet"

How do you interpret that this was Chris' idea? And even if it was his idea, how can you magically change your tune after the woman merely making one statement? WTF? She led him on. I see it. Chris sees it. Chris even said he talked to her after that and she apologized for leading him on.
It seems to me you want to defend this woman regardless of what she did just to spite Chris for being after only one thing.

Get it now?

I don't think we're the ones who don't get it, dear.

Haha, just joking of course but you see my point right?

We see yours (albeit don't agree with it), however I don't think you see our point.

You're American right? I bet you're American.

Puritans.

I prefer the term Rebel.