Swinging!
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It seems to me that there are two contradictory trains of thought here:
1. swinging is alright when everyone is a consenting adult and free to explore his or her sexuality as they all freely consent to do.
2. swinging should be hidden from children as it would damage their mentality.
How do the two go together? Would it not be healthier for such parents to be more open about it to their children rather than keep it hidden like a dirty secret? Wouldn't keeping it hidden imply that there is something to be ashamed about?
1. swinging is alright when everyone is a consenting adult and free to explore his or her sexuality as they all freely consent to do.
2. swinging should be hidden from children as it would damage their mentality.
How do the two go together? Would it not be healthier for such parents to be more open about it to their children rather than keep it hidden like a dirty secret? Wouldn't keeping it hidden imply that there is something to be ashamed about?
I know it can work. Children of certain ages might make it difficult... but it can be done. I know of a family in America with a man that sleeps with three different woman, but only one of the woman are the mother of the children... but even though all three woman live in the same house, they have managed to make the children still believe that they have only one mother, and theother two woman are mearly friends...
Will they? Children are smarter than most parents realise.
Thoreau
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With what?
My husband's brother and his wife were swingers for a while...about 5 yrs. Then the thrill of that wore off too I guess?? Anyways they quit. My husband and I have talked about it. Not whether or not to do it, but what each of us thought about it. He's the jealous type (even of my lesbian best friend) so he said he wouldn't be able to do it. I've never wanted to...yet. I don't think I would ever be able to with the kids still living at home.
But, who knows what may happen once they are gone. I'm not the same person I was 10 yrs ago, so who knows who I will be in 10 yrs from now.
If I found out a friend of mine swung, I would be full of questions, but they would stay my friend. I wouldn't even consider it something to end a friendship over. Why would I??? Why would anyone??
But, who knows what may happen once they are gone. I'm not the same person I was 10 yrs ago, so who knows who I will be in 10 yrs from now.
If I found out a friend of mine swung, I would be full of questions, but they would stay my friend. I wouldn't even consider it something to end a friendship over. Why would I??? Why would anyone??
Thoreau
Valued Senior Member
Im gay and I think swinging is unacceptable and dangerous. I'm very old fashioned in the fact that I believe in long term relationships and commitment... with only 2 people in the relationship lol. Im a firm believer that you don't have sex, or sexual acts unless your in a committed relationship and in love with that person.
Morally speaking, it should be for young hotties only, but it never is. It's always middle-aged senior accountants and their Rubenesque wives. Who wants to waddle over a mound of greying flesh, lifting folds, looking for genitals? Not I.
It's fine in principle but the reality never quite matches up to the vision. Think of the children.
It's fine in principle but the reality never quite matches up to the vision. Think of the children.
I agree it is dangerous if one does not take care sexually... but of all people i would have expected you MZ3 to be more open.
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Uh, because it's two different maturity levels. It's the reason why it's alright for parents to drink alcohol, but not children, etc. It has nothing to do with shame, just that they aren't yet ready for it. Even normal sex between husband and wife isn't usually talked about in front of children. It's also why parents crave for the time little Billy or Sue has to stay over at a cousin's house or a friends so they can have some private whoopy time without the kiddos around.
- N