in a tennis match both people have a risk of getting hurt, i wouldn't say that makes it immoral.
I need to add that besides immoral, it is also unethical. In my opinion, being
moral and ethical in a marriage is being considerate with each other's feeling.
I don't know how about men, but most women I know do not like to share
their husbands.
If people are willing to allow their partners to have sexual relationship with
other people yet keeping their marriage, to me the marriage itself looks like,
uhm, a legitimize prostitution. It's like, "hey, you are free to sleep with anyone
so long you support me financially", or "hey, you are free to sleep with anyone
so long you cook and clean for me". A marriage is a commitment between a
husband and a wife, a union of two persons. That means, to commit just to
dear each other (especially sexually), not to dear sexually your friends, your
neighbors, your boss, your brother, your sister, etc. A place of hat is on the
head, a place of watch is on the arm, a place of shoes are on the foot.
Everything has its place...
how does monogamy serve as a guarantee, and of what? i see marriage as a vow to love the other person, why should sex with another person affect this love? sex with someone you don't love is just mutual masturbation.
Yeah, if people get married, I think it means they declare promises to be just
for each other. If it is a good promise, it should be means a guarantee. If I
promise you to do something and I don't do it, then what is the meaning of
promise? Or, why make a promise in the first place? As people are often
attracted to many persons, it needs strong self-control to commit. Lack of
self-control is a sign of weakness. However, a marriage is a preference.
Nobody is forced to do it. It's just like a job, you know. If you aren't able
to fulfill the job contract, why sign?
something that's supposedly been given free will should be allowed to do what it wants, and failure to comply with the rules of an entity (who you'd expect to be pretty understanding) shouldn't result in eternal damnation. therefore god's opinion is irrelevant so long as your reasons are good. why follow a god who punishes people who acted with good reasons?
Actually it is pretty useless to discuss this aspect, I forgot that not all people
believe in God. Well, if you believe in one like me, I think this means we have
to follow God's rules. If I am a god and I make a creation, I think I have the
privilege to set the rules for my creations. Just like if I have a company and
I hire employees, they should follow my company's rule, not the rules follow
the employees. As far as I know, in any religion, at least in Islam and Christian,
it is not allowed to swing in a marriage.