Either way, I think it would take some serious drugs for me to be able to do that.
There was a lot of that back in the late 1960s and early 1970s. I knew two couples who were swingers and did not take any drugs except alcohol. One of the guys didn't even do that.
No matter how gorgeous the other girl was, I'd have the mental image of my wife getting boned in the other room, or right there in front of me. What if it's better than it ever was with your partner?
It's not like that, at least not the people I've known. It is a four-person activity and it's much different from sex as a two-person activity. It's all about fun and physical pleasure and sometimes it gets downright silly. There's no romance or anything deep, nothing to compare to an intimate night with just the two of you. I got the impression it was more like playing doubles tennis than "making love."
What if it works for one half of the equation, but not for your half?
99.9% of the time it's the man who suggests it. The woman either feels like going along with it or she doesn't. If she does, she usually just goes ahead and does it. If she feels positive enough to agree to it, and all the people get along in non-sexual situations, it will probably work to her satisfaction. You have to remember the Venus-Mars thing. Women just do not relate to sex the way we do.
Too many confusing issues that leave too many loose ends for me. That's why I prefer hookers and blow.
I don't think your wife would regard that as a superior choice.
I don't think I'd be jealous, I would be insecure. I would always wonder if I was as good/exciting as that other woman.
As I said, none of these people gave me the impression that it was like that at all. You can't compare romantic sex with your spouse or lover in private to what is essentially a small orgy. Neither the activity itself nor the feelings it engenders are comparable.
I have to say, I think my husband would be for it as long as it involved only women and no men.
That's quite common. I know far more people who have done three-ways than four-ways, and it is absolutely always two women and one man. Except for one of those couples back in the 1960s who tried just inviting another guy, and all three of them agreed that it wasn't worth doing again.
Women seem to bond after doing
ménages à trois. I know a group of four or five who met, serially, by answering personal ads (always with the same guy) and eventually they all became good pals. I get the impression they discovered that when there's another woman in there, you can be sure that there's at least one other person in the room who cares whether YOU are having a good time.