Motor Daddy:
The kind neighbour introduces himself to you when he moves in next door. And then you chat over the fence once in a while, maybe. He doesn't introduce himself to you by commenting on what nice tits you have, or by walking along silently beside you for five minutes when you leave the house to get some bread from the shop.
See the difference? With the kind neighbour, you have a normal, human interaction. With the creep, you are treated as an object to be intimidated or ogled at.
The difference is that you've known the neighbour for a month or a year or 10 years before he comments on your dress. He doesn't make a regular point of it, and you don't see him hanging over his front fence commenting on the dress of every woman who walks past in the street.
Really, Motor Daddy, I wonder how you manage to navigate your everyday life, when you seem so clueless about ordinary social etiquette.
I recommend that the men on those streets start acting like decent human beings. Is that too much to ask?
Pretty much, yes. How many harassing creep women have you come across? It doesn't seem to be a widely-reported problem by men.
Like milkweed, you don't seem to get it. You're actually blind to what the problem is. The problem is the implied threat that often goes with the comments. And remember, we're not just talking about comments here. We're talking about a guy walking along beside a woman, invading her personal space, for five minutes.
The problem is also that certain men feels entitled to make comments to a complete stranger, in total disregard of whether those comments are wanted or not. The problem is that certain men feel entitled to seek to dominate a public space, in total disregard of the others with whom they share that space. The problem is that certain men feel entitled to intrude from a public space into the private space of complete strangers, without their invitation or consent.
Work it out, Einstein. Pre-existing relationship? The existence of prior conversations? The fact that one interaction is welcomed and the other is not? The fact that two parties are on equal terms in one interaction but not in the other?
It certainly can be.
Suppose a strange guy approaches you on a train and says "That's a nice phone you've got there. I think I'd like to have me a phone just like that one." Could that be a threat, do you think? Surely not. He's just telling you he likes your phone, right?
Again, I wonder how you manage to operate in the social world.
What if every time you take the train, you have burly guys commenting on what a nice phone you have and how they'd like to have one just like it, as they move right up next to you and stand looking down at you with arms crossed? Do you think you'd ever get sick of it? Do you think you might want that behaviour to stop? Do you think you'd ever feel harassed? Or do you think you'd twirl your phone for them and show off its functions - just to be neighbourly, you know?
And again, I wonder how you manage to operate in the social world.
How do you differentiate the creep from the kind neighbor?
The kind neighbour introduces himself to you when he moves in next door. And then you chat over the fence once in a while, maybe. He doesn't introduce himself to you by commenting on what nice tits you have, or by walking along silently beside you for five minutes when you leave the house to get some bread from the shop.
See the difference? With the kind neighbour, you have a normal, human interaction. With the creep, you are treated as an object to be intimidated or ogled at.
If the kind neighbor says you look nice in that dress, do you turn to him and call him a harassing creep? If not, what is different about the guy on the street that tells you you look nice in that dress?
The difference is that you've known the neighbour for a month or a year or 10 years before he comments on your dress. He doesn't make a regular point of it, and you don't see him hanging over his front fence commenting on the dress of every woman who walks past in the street.
Really, Motor Daddy, I wonder how you manage to navigate your everyday life, when you seem so clueless about ordinary social etiquette.
So do you also recommend to other women to avoid walking down the street/streets the video was recorded, now that you know that this woman was harassed over 100 times in 10 hours?
I recommend that the men on those streets start acting like decent human beings. Is that too much to ask?
Are all harassing creeps male?
Pretty much, yes. How many harassing creep women have you come across? It doesn't seem to be a widely-reported problem by men.
Why not? He commented on your appearance, that's a no no, right? Or is the problem that too many compliments are a hassle for you to deal with?
Like milkweed, you don't seem to get it. You're actually blind to what the problem is. The problem is the implied threat that often goes with the comments. And remember, we're not just talking about comments here. We're talking about a guy walking along beside a woman, invading her personal space, for five minutes.
The problem is also that certain men feels entitled to make comments to a complete stranger, in total disregard of whether those comments are wanted or not. The problem is that certain men feel entitled to seek to dominate a public space, in total disregard of the others with whom they share that space. The problem is that certain men feel entitled to intrude from a public space into the private space of complete strangers, without their invitation or consent.
Now pestering is saying, "you look nice in that dress"? So the neighbor is pestering too, no? They said the same thing, so he/she is pestering too!
Work it out, Einstein. Pre-existing relationship? The existence of prior conversations? The fact that one interaction is welcomed and the other is not? The fact that two parties are on equal terms in one interaction but not in the other?
Now it's a threat to tell someone they look nice in that dress?
It certainly can be.
Suppose a strange guy approaches you on a train and says "That's a nice phone you've got there. I think I'd like to have me a phone just like that one." Could that be a threat, do you think? Surely not. He's just telling you he likes your phone, right?
Again, I wonder how you manage to operate in the social world.
Are you honestly unable to distinguish between a truck load of compliments, and harassment? Do you get confused when 104 neighbors tell you, nice dress? Is it all so overwhelming you just want to be able to walk down the street without anyone telling you, nice dress?
What if every time you take the train, you have burly guys commenting on what a nice phone you have and how they'd like to have one just like it, as they move right up next to you and stand looking down at you with arms crossed? Do you think you'd ever get sick of it? Do you think you might want that behaviour to stop? Do you think you'd ever feel harassed? Or do you think you'd twirl your phone for them and show off its functions - just to be neighbourly, you know?
So when I tell a woman, nice dress, and she tells me to get lost you loser lawless creep, I know I should never tell a woman that she looks great in that dress, ever!
And again, I wonder how you manage to operate in the social world.