So why is race such a big deal in relationships? I don't understand why it is. I mean honestly shouldn't "Beauty be in the eye of the beholder" ? Not the beholders parents. It completely confuses me and is completely upsetting. I personally am not calling my parents racist, but I mean to me they are.
I, myself, would not call your parents "racist" for disharmonizing with your selection of a Black partner. Your parents, who are Asian, come from an upbringing which dictates the necessity for their children to marry Asian partners. Why? If you marry somebody outside of your race, much of your culture is destroyed right then and there. Your family's racial identity becomes muddled; your native language is severely damaged; your culture and way of life is forced to intermingle with your partner's culture and way of life, which makes for a kid not exclusive to either. Your kids will not know your native language as well as you do, which will prove to be an ongoing trend, from one generation to the other. The most integral tenet to any culture is
language; once the language weakens, the culture it belongs to follows route. Your parents simply want to maintain their racial and cultural identity; your parents want your children to be fluent in their native language, which requires two parents who speak the language in question at home; your parents want your children to ascribe to their unique culture, and to follow their traditional beliefs and values, which have been in the family for countless generations.
Personally, I'm not very fond of interracial marriages, and I think those who support it wholeheartedly are either misinformed followers, or have sinister plans to destroy the racial identity people have and, with it, their culture and religion. No, interracial marriage should not be illegal, although parents should certainly do their part in preventing them. In any event, you're old enough to make your own decisions, meaning you can marry this girl if you see fit, regardless of how adamantly your parents oppose your decision. Before making any big decisions, though, you should contemplate how your children will be raised, and if the permanent losses outweigh the potential gains.
That's my advice.
Originally Posted by Norsefire
How can you be attracted to black people anyway?
No offense and I'm not trying to insult anybody
What kind of a question is that? By the way: stating something as ignorant as you just did is not forgivable by mentioning you "mean no offense" at the end.
Kadark
) would you have chosen HIM or your parents?