The Stakes, and other notes
Lucysnow said:
Anyway James didn't warn us or ban anyone he closed the thread. I ask what's the difference? I guess the difference was that he was pissed that Varda started another thread.
Again, to reiterate:
Yes, I realize that certain members were just having fun with the word "cunt" and ended up with one-day trips. But, really, it's one thing to go sticking your head in a lion's mouth if you're a circus performer; it's not so wise to go tempting a forum administrator, though, on such a touchy issue.
We aren't your parents. To the other, we
are in some ways analogous to a municipal police department, although we don't get pepper spray and tasers as part of the job.
Still, though, when you were a child, what would your mother do?
Mom: Don't say "cunt", Lucy. It's not a nice word.
Lucy: Cunt, cunt, cunt, cunt, cunt, cunt, cunt, cunt, cunt!
Some of us would be grounded. Some spanked. Some slapped in the face. Others would get the classic stern talking-to. Few among us, though, would walk away from that unscathed.
There
are means of direct action in this community. They should, though, as a general rule, be a bit more mature than a child testing a parent's boundaries.
And in recent years, a valid criticism arose concerning direct action. In the days of civil disobedience and civil rights, nobody said the activist was not guilty. Rather, plenty of activists went to jail for perfectly ridiculous reasons, and the point was to demonstrate the injustice of a particular law. These days, plenty of activists have forgotten that point. Anti-abortion protesters in the '90s complained that assaulting doctors and patients alike, or preventing someone from entering a building, should be protected free speech. Anti-war and economic protesters of the new millennium seem to forget that, yes, it
is illegal to tie up traffic in the downtown for hours. Tear gas and rubber bullets? You
don't fight back. You
take it, and make your point by demonstrating how silly it is for the police to feel threatened by people who aren't doing anything violent.
Are you demonstrating to make a point? Or are you fighting to win a battle? Some might say the one is the other. However, the other is not necessarily the one. That is, demonstration might be fairly considered a
form of battle, but not all battles qualify as demonstrations. (When Seattle police drove demonstrators into residential neighborhoods and gassed the hell out of everything, that was a demonstration. When the Philadelphia chief of police was beaten with his own bicycle, that was more of a battle.) And, it is true, a demonstration can quickly turn into a battle, but the term applied depends entirely on the conduct of the demonstrators.
At Sciforums, of course, we need not worry about tear gas and rubber bullets and bicycles. The only RCAs at our disposal are thread locks, post deletions, and member suspensions. In other words, we're not going to take the swabs out of the first aid kit, douse them in capsicum, and rub it in your eyes while your hands are cuffed behind your back.
The appearance of inconsistency in the rules has many causes, among which, of course, is actual and deliberate inconsistency. But this is among the more rare of causes. More often, it is sloth or an apathy brought on by weariness. And, to be sure, most moderators don't hover over their subfora waiting to strike. Indeed, the membership would appear to
prefer we don't.
I would say the difference with the hairy cunt thread is invested in two aspects. First, they were
links? That would make a difference. We'll cut those links when we find them, and maybe even pop off a note or two. But the nature of the response depends not only on the issue itself, but
extenuating circumstances. And that is the other aspect.
With the present issue, the circumstances are somewhat messy. The Sciforums membership has a difficult history with mental health. Some would offer their best advice, but few if any of us are actual qualified psychologists and, even for those that might be, this is not a proper environment for diagnosis. By and large, though, we are
sharks when it comes to mental health. If this community finds the merest whiff of psychological dysfunction, it seizes on it. One of our recent prolific trolls—who might well have finally given up that approach, as I haven't heard his name recently—confessed early through his original user ID that he had certain personal issues. Because he was viewed as a pseudoscientist, and was therefore disliked, people savaged that point. The lesson is to expose your psyche at your own risk.
This is sad, though, because it discourages honesty and trust in the community. But more to the point, while we cannot, as members or moderators, be expected to act as psych counselors, we do have an obligation to consider the deliberate antagonism of psychological dysfunction. People kill themselves over that kind of bullying, Lucy. And yes, I know it seems stupid that they would, but the truth is that
people have killed themselves over online harassment.
The chilling effect of Varda's original "whiny cunts" comment had potential for broad damage. It was essentially a reminder to keep one's internal issues hidden. And while that seems wise advice in consideration of the internet, it also has the effect of reducing the communicative potential. Trying to grasp the context of someone's post is more difficult if we don't understand where they are coming from as a human being. Thus, I am allegedly a Democratic shill, and others, despite claiming to not be Republicans, have often sounded like paid mouthpieces for the Party. Hell, I was once accused of being
Catholic. I can only hope everyone else got as much of a laugh out of that as I did, especially since I don't hide nearly as much of my psyche as other people do. We have a member here who likes to dismiss my posts because I'm a pothead, despite the fact that my biggest problem with marijuana right now is lack of access. We use these personal details not to better understand people, but as a justification for dismissing what we don't wish to deal with. I have a couple of messages somewhere advising me that a member I don't particularly like suffers war-related psychological trauma. On the one hand, it doesn't justify what I perceive as priggish behavior; to the other, it may be that the best thing I can do is simply ignore his rantings. I'm certainly not going to look at him and say, "Well, that's just another shell-shocked, angry rant." And I'm certainly not going to call him "Killer". I might think he's pathetic, but he's not pathetic because surviving a war left permanent psychological scars. If he's pathetic, it's because he carries on, unrelentingly, like an idiot.
Is there some reason the primary manifestation of the membership's regard for mental health is to use it as a weapon?
The great potential of an intelligent community is to
learn and
understand. When we reject that learning and understanding, we are conceding to ignorance.
So I would ask that you put it against that background. Perhaps in the context of media bias, or the dishonesty of politicians, a characterization like "whiny cunts" might actually be overlooked. And you well know there are ways to say things around here. If I say you sound like a bitch about a certain point, well, that might be true insofar as a number of people happen to find your approach difficult, unsympathetic, elitist, uninformed, &c. But I certainly can't say that you
are a bitch. That's far too general, too definite and permanent. But, for the most part, it's probably best to simply leave the word "bitch" out of it. It is probably more useful to consider the issues of sympathy, elitism, and information. To throw the word "bitch" into it primarily serves the purpose of throwing a punch. And, yes, there are artful ways to throw punches, but one should always think twice at least before smacking someone upside the head with a trout.
Reminding those concerned with their mental health that they are whiny cunts is problematic and suggests a lack of human sympathy. In the larger arrangement of things, such sentiments are small tiles in a vast mosaic. But what is that larger picture? In life, as on bulletin boards, such condemnations discourage honest consideration of one's own mental health. And this can, in the cumulative effect, have ugly results both mundane and spectacular. The estranged family, the violent home, the school shooting. The first reconciliation that must occur in repairing the broken family is within the self. And then the selves must come together. Certes, these processes overlap, but the collective cannot bind its wounds if the individuals have not recognized the need for that healing. And the spectacular mass murders? These are extreme manifestations of personalities entirely unreconciled to the self. Alienation begets hostility, and what happens from there depends entirely on each individual. It is quite clear that not every individual is prepared to endure the same thresholds of unease, frustration, or anguish.
If those endeavoring to wrestle with their psychological dysfunction are whiny cunts, the suggestion is that it is proper to not undertake such endeavors. If those seeking to transcend their alienation are whiny cunts, the suggestion is that they should remain alone and, as is often the case, afraid.
Is this healthy? Would you really say it so explicitly? Are people not considering these stakes? That latter I can accept, even if I think few would explicitly say psychological reconciliation and healing is wrong. We all overlook important things sometimes, but I don't believe people in general are so insensitive toward the human condition as to deliberately discourage psychological health. That is, I don't think Varda is so cruel as all this might imply. But on this occasion, there are important issues in play.
I don't think people are really demanding the right to hurt one another for no good reason, even if that's among the stakes in this argument.
As an abstract question directed generally, and not just at you in particular, I would ask people to consider how precise they really want moderators to be in explaining the basis of offense. My general experience with sending notes to members is that, whether or not they appreciate the moderator's position, the more you give them, the more they have to complain about. Certainly, some nod and say, "Okay." But more often than not, I get a general attempt to fisk the policy explanation offered. Thus, in consideration of the eight paragraphs that begin with the chilling effect of Varda's "whiny cunts" comment, do people
really want to see such analysis in their inbox for any given warning flag?
Not only will the moderators be inclined to stiffen sanctions, including suspension periods, if they're putting in that kind of time into the analysis, but a significant portion of the regular membership here would find such lectures pedantic and patronizing. We would like to think people are capable of recognizing the implications of their actions, yet such dispute as the two threads in response to James' actions has brought suggests that people either don't see the problem, or simply don't give a damn.
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Betrayer0fHope said:
Tiassa, can you say what you said about the Sciforums and dimensions in a way that is general, and also with your full name or a first initial so I can attribute it to you?
Working on it. I have a preliminary revision that I'm trying to develop into a blog post. I'll get back to you shortly on it. Hopefully sometime today.