Seriously, you pound people with jack hammers and then cry foul if you get brushed with a feather duster ....
If you want docile, submissive serfs, then you should consider poisoning the wells so that our brains don't develop, or you should consider keeping your scriptures and your beliefs to yourselves so that we can't read them and use them against you.
Bear in mind that I oppose those whom I think they defame God's character, whether they are theists or atheists. The principles of my opposition are common sense ethics and the pursuit of consistency. So, for example, if someone claims there is no God, or that God will punish some people to eternal damnation, I will point out what I see as transgressions against common sense ethics and consistency.
Thats why I suggested " so is it in t he case of theistic discussions, anyone who is not a theist is not required to adhere to the standard guidelines of sustaining/developing a relationship that we would otherwise lay down for any other scenario?"
The relationship between a theist and a non-theist who is not a strong atheist nor a strong agnostic is unique. Because in it, only the theist has certainty or claims to have certainty on the one and only topic that per definition contextualizes everything, namely "God," the all-important topic, while the non-theist who is not a strong atheist nor a strong agnostic doesn't have this certainty, so this is where he is most vulnerable.
Without having certainty about God, the non-theist who is not a strong atheist nor a strong agnostic, has no choice but to allow for the possibility that anything people claim on the topic "God," may be true. This includes that when theists have killed, raped and pillaged, and claimed it was divinely justified, the non-theist who is not a strong atheist nor a strong agnostic, has to allow for this possibility that killing, raping and pillaging is divinely justified. Or that when a theist promises to pick one up from the airport, but doesn't and instead watches tv at home, the non-theist who is not a strong atheist nor a strong agnostic, is in the unenviable position of having to acknowledge this behavior from the theist as possibly appropriate and no hindrance to continuing the relationship with the theist, continuing to see the theist as an elevated and morally superior person.
This is why the relationship between a theist and a non-theist who is not a strong atheist nor a strong agnostic, is uneasy and unsettling for the non-theist who is not a strong atheist nor a strong agnostic, in ways that no other relationship is.
If living without certainty about God would be easy, I would have given up on talking to theists long ago. But as I am neither a strong atheist nor a strong agnostic, not having certainty about God is a weakness of mine, and I have to find ways to deal with that and to protect myself in this regard.