But technically, you didnt have the choice. And while things ended up turning out fine, you do remember the way you felt about not having the choice.
Well, my wife asked me if I was going to leave her. No, I was responsible enough to take on the task. There was no way I would abandon her with a kid on the way. My feeling at the time was that I wasn't thrilled about the prospect of becoming a father, but watching her swell over time was an eye opener. Watching the delivery was also very important. And, of course, raising the kid brought it home. Mind you, I hadn't a problem with kids, I just preferred it when they belonged to someone else.
I believe that I did have a choice, and what I chose was to stay with my wife and deal with the responsibility.
So how do you apply your current position, voting your conscience (which I assume means you would vote to make abortion illegal) when you know exactly what it is like not to have a choice? I mean, didnt you kinda hate the idea you had no choice on whether you became a father at that time?
I wised up after they put him in my arms. My son is now 23 years. He's a young man with his life ahead of him. Looking at him I see how abortion would have been a terrible choice. Had I had my way, he never would have been. Terrible, terrible, terrible. I can also look at other people and recognize their unique characteristics that make them individuals, and what a loss it would be if they did not exist. My wife denied me my choice way back when. I'm thankful that she did.
And along the same lines as above, given you think it is like murder, What would you do if your daughter chose to abort regardless of your offers to help? Would you think she got by with murder? And how would your relationship change If you really have such a position? I cant imagine you would have a murderer-who-got-away-with-it over for thanksgiving. I mean its always easier to throw someone else's kid in prison.
I would love my daughter no matter what she did. Having her life ahead of her, showing a lot of promise and ambition, I would be very disappointed should she become pregnant. Nonetheless, I think an abortion is a terrible thing to carry throughout your life, which is why I believe most women would never resort to it. My daughter is at age to make her own decisions, The law allows her to choose abortion. All I can do is offer my advice and support for the her and her child.
And if it was illegal in your state/country but not across the border, would you still consider it murder if your daughter went across state lines for the procedure?
I am just curious as to how you reconcile these things.
I live in a very liberal state. Yes, I would still consider it murder, but as I said above, I would love my daughter no matter what.