Just what does one call "fair"?
Let us take today as a comparison. I'm not an atheist, but the rule I can't get anyone to respect is that my daughter's religious decisions should be her own.
She stayed at her cousin's on Saturday night, went to church on Easter morning. As far as I am informed, this is her first trip to a church service. She even knelt, I'm told, for the pastor's blessing at the communion rail.
It's not like she doesn't have exposure to religion. On the other side of the family, her maternal grandparents "don't preach to her". They simply surround her with as much religious material as they can.
When we got to another cousin's house for the Easter egg hunt—also, as I understand it, my daughter's first—everyone was talking about how cute little N was, running around the house proclaiming, "He is risen!"
One of my cousins married a Jewish man who has fallen away from faith. But he went to church like he does every Sunday to make his wife happy.
All of this on one side of my family. In the course of less than twenty-four hours.
The question is whether the "failure to indoctrinate a child into a religious belief" counts as "indoctrination into atheism".
Aside from that, everyone is indoctrinated into a belief system.
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A curious proposition that starts before my daughter was born. Her mother made a point of telling me that our daughter would never go to a Jesuit school. For her it's a tit-for-tat thing. On the one hand, the religious schools her parents sent her to were dismal failures. To the other, though, she grew up in a very anti-Catholic environment. Proactively hateful. She doesn't see the difference, though. The schools she went to screwed her up with bad religion and even worse education. My school was a Jesuit school. Not a big deal. In fact I only mention it because it came up again recently. We were discussing daycare and for some reason, her mother wanted to put her into a Seventh-Day Adventist program. She couldn't understand why I would object to a church culture of which she refers to herself as an "escapee".
Talk about Stockholm syndrome.
And we were standing in a parking lot having this argument. And for some reason, she brought up the Jesuit school. "Since she can't avoid it in the world, anyway, I'd rather she do it now instead of going to your high school when she can't defend herself."
Even now, I can't believe she actually said it. It makes
no sense to me. Philosophically
or practically.
Jesuit school is where I learned to fight back. But that's beside the point.
Indoctrinated? Watch a not-quite five year-old run around proclaiming, "He is risen! He is risen!"
Can't defend herself?
Watch a not-quite five year-old run around proclaiming, "He is risen! He is risen!"
Try this phrase and tell me how it tastes:
"I want my child's first formal education experience to be the pretense that a faery tale is true. Specifically, I want it to be faery tale that demands belief at the threat of eternal rejection and condemnation."
Better yet, and obviously spun from the tale above:
"I want my child's first formal education experience to be teaching of Christianity as if it was true, because if we wait too long, she might be able to defend herself."
Offer her the
choice to believe in God? What the f— ...?
• • •
I just want to consider whether or not everyone is familiar with a concept:
"In order to be fair, I must give you what you refuse to give others."
Many of us have looked out at the world around us and wondered why we felt that way. It can be
very easy to find a variation on that theme in our more passionate disagreements here at Sciforums.
Offer her a choice? What does that mean, "offer her a choice"?
"Honey, I want you to take some time to believe this faery tale that tells you that you have to believe it or else be punished because I want to know if you, for some reason, want to believe it."
Does that mean I can offer her witchcraft and Buddhism—two religions with considerably lesser degrees of emotional and psychological exploitation—or do I have to include a redemptive monotheism in order to be "fair"?
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My brother reminds, "We survived. And we're okay."
Well, okay. Point. Sort of.
We're okay. That's a curious proposition considering one of us is damn near crazy, and the other seems a closet nihilist. Now, I absolutely cannot say that religion is to blame for this outcome. Racism probably wins that derby by a country mile, which is the strangest thing since most of our friends think of us as white. But that's all beside the point, too.
Religion, though, didn't help. And we were lucky, by comparison. The effects we suffered arose from a
nominally Christian environment. We were
expected, at some level, to believe in God. And that puts all the strangeness about religion in a whole different light. From the hypersensitive (PMRC) to the shameless (televangelists) to the neurotic zealots (hatemongers/political evangelicals), it's amazing how much one will put up with once they "believe". Anthrax's "
Startin' Up A Posse", released in 1991, finally put the hypersensitive in perspective: it was impossible to take these people seriously. I was eighteen. I mean, any song with "Motherfucker, motherfuck!" and "Cunty-cunty-cunty-cunt!" as backup ensemble vocals .... It was over.
But it never should have had to be like that. What's wrong with hearing something coming out of someone's mouth and knowing it's bullshit? Well, the answer is because they are a "Christian" and therefore deserve some sort of special consideration. A whole generation is learning all sorts of strange shit in that context.
Hell, think of the central tenet of Christianity:
You ought to be ashamed of yourself for even existing.
I mean, come on. No wonder they're afraid of the day the kids can defend themselves. Tell that to any reasonably developed psyche and, at best, you'll be laughed at.
Of course,
maybe that's why we all need Jesus.
You know. Had to throw that in. Just to be ... uh ...
fair