You are all getting too bogged down in my comparison of the N word to pagan. Its not saying that they are on the same level at all.
I was merely responding to Johns assertion that it is foolish for atheists to not accept a name for them merely because it has a bad connotation. He painted athiests as cowards becasue they are afraid of this identity as a pagan because it has a bad connotation. That is similar to the bad connotation of the N word, which African Americans also try to escape being called.
Don't take the comparison too literally. Im just making the point that nobody wants to be called by a name with a bad connotation, and its not "denying your heritage" to not want to be called a slanderous vague word.
Now frankly, I dont care what you call me regarding my beliefs, but dont call me a coward for not accepting a name that doesnt identify me correctly.