I am not trying to talk here about spacetime , which is a mathematical model ; but i am trying to talk here about spacetime , which exists in nature and generates force .
Newton described gravity as a
FORCE acting between two objects.
Einstein when he introduced general relativity
DISCARDED the idea that gravitation was a force and replaced it with the idea that the geometry of space results in what we experience as gravitation. Space and matter interact dynamically such that space is curved by the presence of matter. The curvature of space can also be described as the geometry of space.
This was a departure from the "flat" space and time of Newton and flat spacetime of special relativity. In a sense, the dynamic geometry of GR when mated with the Equivalence Principle, describes gravitation as essentially an inertial bias, evolving from the dynamic geometry of space. What we experience and describe as the
force of gravitation is not a
force, any more than coasting down a hill is a force.
The issue of space vs space + time vs spacetime, are different only if defined historically. Today they are all nothing more than different approaches and attempts to describe the same thing from different perspectives, our experience of the world around us and in the larger context of the universe as a whole.
We, almost all of us, continue to talk about gravity as a force. It is difficult to think of it differently, while we struggle against it in our everyday lives. In one sense gravitation is a ficticiuos force in a very similar way as centrifugal force is. The force of gravitation is a ficticiuos force, which can be described as an inertial bias resulting from the proximity of matter.
The difficulty in both cases, is that we have no clear definition of what causes what we experience as inertia. At least not one that is rigorously consistent with our theoretical understanding of the "forces", geometries, experimental observations and experience, that appear to be involved.