Bells
Staff member
You forgot your entrance in this thread?Where?
I'd just been repeatedly abused, accused of somehow benefiting from being rape because apparently it was such a great experience and all, that it gave me leverage. You enter the thread and declare how Rodger was right about women and the behaviour they reward, in your opinion, and then in a following post, after James R advised Balerion that he should apologise on his return from his ban, you respond with how much you agreed with Balerion, parroted the exact same pure bullshit foil hat accusation that the guy abusing me had been spouting. But then again, you've already declared that it's about who you are arguing against.. It's not about content, is it?
You remind me of Wynn. She once went after a woman who posted here, who had been violently raped when she was 3 and after she recounted her experience, Wynn told her how she was partially responsible for her rape and that perhaps she should take ownership of the part she played in said rape. I don't see you as being any different, to be honest. The way in which you come across.. You lack empathy. Your rose coloured glasses view of Rodger's aside, agreeing with him about women? See, it's when you post stuff like that, and all the rest of it, from rape prevention to your referring to known rape apologists, like when you whined about "political correctness".. you value women's rights so little? Well of course you do. You think that my hatred of misogyny makes me a hater of all men, with an agenda against all men. Really? Can you see just how it makes you look? I comment on misogyny and your response is this shrill "you have an agenda against all men because you hate all men".. Ermm.. Okay.. You can't tell the two apart? You value misogyny that much that you leap to its defense with arms wide open so that anyone who dares comment on it must automatically hate all men? That is what makes you look like a misogynist.
It's like the racist people who spout racist ideology and then go 'I have black relatives!'. That's you. You spout pure misogyny and when you get called out for it, your defense is "I'm a woman".. As though that somehow makes it impossible for you to be a misogynist? It's like saying black people aren't racist towards other black people. The reality is that many blacks look at skin colour and do discriminate based on people's blackness or lightness within their communities.
I get it, you're arguing against me. Big bad Bells. There's only so low you can go in this limbo game before your head has drilled a hole to China, Trooper. You don't like me? That's fine. But this? Going this low?
It has been provided. Perhaps you should read it.My guess is that you and your wife are simple followers experiencing cognitive biases. I’ve asked you several times for evidence, but to no avail.
You are an intelligent woman, Trooper. Perhaps you should start acting like one.
We could ask you the same question...It’s easier to jump on the bandwagon, isn't it?
No, the underlying theme is your abusive and dishonest behavior.Bells said:I get it, there is this underlying theme in this thread that feminists are bad, must be wrong, must be out to get men, etc.
"I'm not racist, I have black friends!"I've defend Bells on several occasions when she was right.
I'm sure he will really appreciate that. Whether he appreciates the fact that you've taken it into rape prevention advocacy remains to be seen. Perhaps he is being silent about it because he either agrees with you or does not want to hurt your feelings by asking you to stop advocating rape prevention theories for women when you defend him.I’m defending GeoffP because he is right.
What are you defending him about? What is he right about? That rape is about sex? We've been over this. You want to stick with the two who studied scorpion flies? Sure. I'll stick with the people who studied hundreds of rapists and quite literally wrote the book on the subject, which is referred to by law enforcement agencies and universities around the world. In many cases, it's required reading... And that is your prerogative, just as mine is my own. Then again, I'm not operating on a 'Elliot Rodger is right about women' level like you are. Nor am I operating on a 'women's rights is political correctness' stance like you are.
Like I said, you are a very intelligent woman, Trooper. But you are posting in a way that quite literally, makes you look like a misogynist. I mean rape prevention? Really? You're not saying anything new. Do you think we need to be reminded of common sense? Do you think I'm stupid enough to not know these things?
Stop posting like one and people might just start to believe you.He is not a rape advocate, or a misogynist, and neither am I.
Did you read through that post?Intellectually-honest and intellectually-dishonest debate
Bells and Tiassa are intellectually dishonest.
As I was told by a former colleague, it's a statistic. I'm a statistic. Only a very small percentage of rapists are even charged. The greater majority of that never even make it to a court room, let alone prison. The figures are just as bad here.You should consider putting your law degree to good use. This should have never happened. That’s not how the legal system works. The sad, unavoidable truth is that women have to decide what's more important. Putting an abusive man in jail is important. He could do this again to another woman.
Could he do it again? Yes. And I live in absolute terror. I kid you not, I live in absolute terror, every single second of every day. I think about it sometimes, advocating for my own cause. Actually having an agenda or forming one, contrary to what you may believe, I am not a huge fan of agendas. Will it make me feel better? Or will it consume me? Will it make me safer? Or will it put me into contact with him even more? Do I want to anger the man who did this to me even more? Do I want him to be thinking about me even more with that much hatred?
And I feel selfish. Because I can't do it. I have two kids who need me to get over this. They cry every night, because their cousins won't speak to them anymore because of this. They don't even understand what rape is. My kids are nearly 9 and the youngest just turned 7. They should not have to learn what rape is. But now they do. We've had to get a new couch, because he ermm.. he ejaculated on it and then smeared it all over the couch before he left. They took it away at first, then returned it. And I didn't want it back in my house. My father cries every day, my mother .. well she looks like the world has ended. My partner is stuck in a contract job and will be home in a few weeks. He cries every day when I speak to him on skype. It's like a death in the family. People even took to bringing me food. And I think, do I want to put them all through more stress and pain?
He is deemed too mentally ill, so as I was reminded by his ex-wife, it was just sex. That is how I should have looked at it. Just sex. If only I'd kept my mouth shut, just called her and she'd have gotten him help and she kept telling me this. The police had also found out that he had been watching me at night. They found his fingerprints outside my bathroom window and the windows at the side of my house, near my family room. The noises I'd thought were possums or the cat or dog, at night, the scratching noises outside at the side of the house, the noises of something moving outside, was sometimes him. Now, I live in a house with a high front fence, security gates, the side gates are security gates and 6ft high. And he climbed over it. And I had no idea. I don't know how long he'd been doing it for. He knew my schedule. The day I was raped, he knew I was sick with the flu and that the boys were with their father and that I was home alone, because he had taken to asking my former sister-inlaw about my movements and about me. He probably watched me flop onto the couch with a book and a rug and probably watched as I fell asleep, because I was feeling so sick that day, all I did was doze and sleep hugging a book and a box of tissues. So his psychiatrist has argued that he is obsessive, compulsive, suffering from the effects of going to Vietnam and therefore, severely depressed, alone, and all the rest of the psychobabble they can claim. So a deal was struck, he visits his psychiatrist every week, he has to stay away from me and my residence and my family. And that was it. I couldn't have expected anything different. This is what happens. They aren't going to waste time on a case where the perpetrator had clear issues. This was small fry. Backroom deal, it doesn't make it to court, chalk it to not clogging the system. My injuries were minor, just bruising and scratches. And they don't think he'd be competent to stand trial. Apparently this is where everybody wins. The law is not about doing what is right. It's about doing what is the most efficient most of the time.