This discussion is a disgrace to masculinity
Betrayer0fHope said:
One, this situation is more similar to a woman having something of the man's in her body.
There are a few solutions to the dilemma you propose. The simple answer, of course, is that if he finds it so problematic to put something he considers his into her body, he should not have put it there in the first place.
Indeed, there are ways to make sure of this:
• Total abstinence, which, to consider your post, seems either impossible or simply unfair to ask of a man.
• Barren partner: Only have sex with women who have had hysterectomies, or are otherwise certifiably unable to reproduce.
• Vasectomy is, perhaps, simpler than the point above; by taking measures into your own hands, you will not be reducing so greatly the selection of women available to you. Indeed, I must say that, according to your attitude, you might wish to consider this option.
• Homosexuality: Go find yourself a cute guy to fuck.
Perhaps the most offensive thing about this discussion is a coin with two sides. In the first place, why should the welfare of a child be subordinate to your own irresponsible pride? And, if we flip the coin and take a similarly selfish posture, I confess I'm embarrassed to share a Y chromosome with such a poor excuse for decency.
Life
is. That's the simple mystery. Or, rather, it's simple to express, and a bit tougher to understand; I'll let you know if I ever get the hang of it. But as one who has faced the prospect of unplanned fatherhood, I can only reiterate that I was annoyed—and not injured—by the fact that my partner made her decision without so much as asking me. It is, in fact, a long story that involves her sousing our newly-conceived offspring, using that existence as a weapon, admitting that she did not know for sure if she was pregnant even though she had suspected it for a couple of weeks, and then only having the pregnancy confirmed after her substance use over the weekend so exhausted her that she collapsed at work and had to be taken to the hospital. The offense was
personal. That is, I was enormously sick of her behavior. (And yet, to the other, I kept getting on for the ride.) But from any ethical, moral, or judicial perspective, I cannot see how she
owed me any say whatsoever.
Call her a bad person if you want. Go on, try it; it
does help, for a few minutes. But that's the thing: Her ethics were purely self-centered, her morals so much of a joke I can't describe, and there was no judicial leverage by which, had I been so inclined, I could have forced her to get an abortion. Additionally, even if we had put to paper her offer to excuse me from any parental responsibility, I can't imagine a court respecting that agreement. After all—and here's the thing—when a child is involved,
it's no longer about you.
Do you understand that?
When a child is involved, it's no longer about you.
Just because you're not breaking anything when you knock up a woman doesn't mean you aren't responsible for the effects of your actions. If
you choose to have sex with a woman, and
you make her pregnant, and
you don't want the child,
you, sir, are screwed by none other than
your own dick.
Bottom line: find out before you fuck. And if that word isn't trustworthy, it's still
your own damn fault for taking the plunge.
This whole plea is ridiculous. You don't get to change the rules simply because you don't like them. So if you don't like the rules of the game, don't play.
You've hands, a brain, and plenty of alternatives.
God damn. I generally don't mind the
men are stupid stereotype because, compared to other stereotypes, this one doesn't seem to do much harm. Except, of course, when men believe it and make such efforts to prove the point.