you know whats amussing about this convention? it means you cant critise suicide bombers because they are dead and you dont speak ill of the dead
Baloney. The 1st person who said it might or might not have intended it to help protect the innocent family members of the dead person. That is not how the vast majority of people use it. It's said at funerals, pubs, beds, sports arenas, businesses, the IRS, cruise ships & everywhere else & it usually comes out as a command. Idiots even fight over it.
You seem to be desperate.