You were saying?
I should have said, "read her posts where she said 'atheists don't care about other people'". I truly don't recall her saying that.
Of course they don't rule their people with measures intended to cause fear. Of course they do not prattle on about hell and sinning. How erroneous of me to have dared presume such a thing. It really is a magical pixie place where everyone is free and happy.
The majority love it. Go into almost every household, and you'll see Ayatollah Khomeini's picture hanging on the wall. The people who don't like the system are the richer class who liked the Western lifestyle of the Shah.
So growing up in a Muslim family, you were never taught about sin, sinners and what happens to them if people do not abide by the religious scriptures? You were never bound by the constraints of your religion? You have never thought to yourself that a Muslim who happens to sin will go to hell?
Of course I was taught these things. However, as you would imply, I had no "fear of repercussions" when I argued my point, or asked why such and such was the way things in Islam were.
Are my family raging lunatics? Yes. The greater majority of them are deeply religious Christians who have no qualms in constantly reminding me that my sinful atheist beliefs will have me rotting in hell. Hence why I no longer associate with most of them. I do not want my children to grow up fearing they will go to hell if they do something wrong.
I feel bad for you. Religion is the greatest aspect of my life, perhaps because of how it was introduced to me. I cannot discredit your personal experiences, so I will end this part of the discussion now.
Just as a theist can commit crimes and be downright horrible human beings, not caring of their religious fate, thinking themselves safe because they have been taught that just saying "forgive me god for all the sins I have committed" will get them into heaven anyway.
In Islam, you are only forgiven if you don't commit the crime again.