Wrong again !
J and Q contribute (like M) to the Einstein stress-energy tensor, but they are not the components of the total black hole mass.
The word for you is
autodidacticism..
In your case autodidacticism is not supported by any formal education, which makes you a bit dangerous person. You must have read GR and along with that you must have encountered conservation laws, concepts of motions, energy mass, even the Noether theorem,....you read them but to apply this autodidactic knowldege without really understanding what the momentum is makes you dangerous.
For example you know momentum/angular momentum remains conserved when a particle travels on geodesic, you also say that when an object falls it is extremal geodesic (all read out stuff from varied sources), so when an object is dropped from a height it is a geodesic motion and its momentum should remain conserved....Thats where you failed yourself, because of lack of basic foundation on the subject. Cofeee table discussion on GW/GR is fine with uncomplemented autodidacticism, not serious stuff.
Another autodidacticism expose, in a recent post you praised Numerical Relativity, this again shows lack of understanding. We are forced, repeat forced to apply Numerical methods because we cannot solve those equations (say for multi body GR equations) analytically. We would love to solve analytically to get exact solutions, but we cannot, so we resort to Numerical Tools. It could be beautiful but not exact, it could be beautiful but not desired.
Get a clue, abuses do not make you learned....discuss the counter argument also, if your point of view is stronger and put in right tone, the other guy will accept. After all mainstream followers like you have edge, because you guys are supported.
PS: Basic Physics: When you drop a ball of mass m from a nearby height (?) h from rest, then its initial momentum = 0, and final momentum (just before it strikes the earth) is m*sqrt(2gh)....now please see, is it conserved ? But if you dig deep, you will realise that if the ball had an acceleration of g towards earth, then
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reissner–Nordström_metricthe earth has an acceleration g/M towards the ball, do the calculations and see that momentum of the system (ball + earth) remains conserved.