LOL. That's often part of manipulation. My roommate who is extremely bigoted, racist, and prejudice will frame guys into 'stalker' at first sight.
Are you trying to imply, in some weak, impish, backhanded sort of way, that I'm a bigot?
If so, you better hope nobody else reads this, and certainly don't ever do it again, because you only make yourself look like an idiot, not me. I did not say you were a stalker.
I think the case with the nephew is actually a very common scenario. What made him a nice person was that he did care about her and treat her well. This was according to the description I got from his uncle because the nephew wasn't even a friend of mine much less somebody I knew personally. According to the uncle, he was a really good person. He was an angel, and she treated him like shit on a stick. But I do think this is a common situation.
First of all, we all know you're talking about yourself, OK? You claim to be getting this second-hand, and then claiming you don't know all of the details, but you've maintained certain aspects of the story to be absolutely true as if you have first-hand knowledge. If we're not talking about you, then you need to understand you don't actually know for sure that you're correct, and stop defending the kid so damn much.
If this is indeed coming from an uncle, you have no idea if the uncle is just looking after his nephew. It's hard to get objective information regarding someone from their family.
Yes. He might have lost it, began fawning over her, began judging her, allowed her to control the relationship, and all of that. And he got played in the end because of it. Was he out to hurt her or stalk her? No. Did he have any malicious intentions for her? No. He fawned over her, she didn't like him, he got hurt, and reacted all pissy. So what?
Judging her is not treating her well. You don't seem to grasp that. I'm guessing you're very young...am I right? And he obviously did not get played. She made it clear that she was not interested, correct? She made it clear that if he continued to overwhelm her with adulation she would not see him anymore, correct? Then she did not play him. She was, from what you've told us, very up-front and honest with him. He played himself by not taking no for an answer.
It's not that she should have liked him because he was nice. It may or may not be true that he probably was the best choice for her, and she was manipulating the situation by placing him into the frame of being the creep, all in order to justify being with the assholes instead.
See, you have NO clue what you're talking about.
First, it isn't his place to say that he's the best choice for her. It's her choice. She's not an object, she's a human being. Second, he put HIMSELF in the position of being a creep by being a judgmental asshole who wouldn't take no for an answer.
Typical. Nothing new. I find it likely that she's an idiot beause we see this exact situation happen all the time. Looking from the outside, we see a nice guy who would be great for a girl get thrown in the dumpster by the girl so that she could be with some mentally retarded jackass. Nice guy gets hurt and all pissy, then ultimately framed as the creep because the girl is running around calling him a stalker. Nice try but that shit doesn't fly with me.
No, you're looking not looking from the outside. You're looking from the inside, because you were the one she rejected. I'M looking from the outside, because I do not have a horse in this race, and I can tell you that if what you've said is how this thing actually played out, then the kid is a clinger who needs to learn how to act around women.
But there are many examples in which people who honestly aren't out to hurt others get taken by those who are out to hurt others.
Didn't say he was out to hurt her. Obviously she wasn't out to hurt you. But you acted like an idiot, especially after she told you no, and probably said a bunch of shit you shouldn't have said. Did you tell her she was a slut for sleeping with other guys? Did you call her crying at all hours of the night? Did you refuse to leave her alone despite her telling you not to? I'm guessing you did all of that, and then some.
Do yourself a favor and grow up. You'll have much better luck if you do.
And you know what, kid? You don't have to admit to it here. Just take what I say to heart. You and I both know it's true, so just take the lessons you learned here and take them with you. Because even if you aren't the guy in this story, you're on his side, which makes you just as bad, because you clearly don't know how to treat a woman either. So just buck up, dude.