water said:Light,
How am I to respond to a person who believes he can read minds?
HAH! Good one, Water. Actually, I expected something similar to that.
No, I'm not a mindreader. That would be para-psychology (which is mostly fraud) but rather I am an ordinary psychologist. I never went into private practice (though many of my students did and I'm still in touch with several of them) choosing instead to teach.
I only "know" you in the sense that you very closely fit a classical profile that I've seen time and again. It's possible that you don't believe in profiles but trust me - they can be quite accurate and helpful at times.
The profile I'm speaking of is the one that people in my profession see more often than all the others. An individual has undergone some type of psychological (and sometimes physical as well) trauma. The actual trauma itself varies very widely. Anything from the death of a parent or child, loss of a spouse, loss of a job, vehicle or other serious accident, continual harassment by co-workers and always includes a feeling of betrayal. I'm sure you get the picture.
It's their reaction to it that forms the profile, of course. It's characterized by withdrawal to varying degrees, the establishment of a "wall" designed to protect themselves from being approached by others, denial, an unwillingness to allow themselves to form anything other than the MOST superficial relationships with others and is usually accompanied by a "tough guy/gal" attitude. The purpose of all that, of course, is self-protection.
Depending on the severity, there can also be a serious downside. By isolating themselves, the individual misses out on most of the better things in life. Another thing that often forms in the classical case is that the individual desires pity - but for a perverted purpose. They will deny they want it, naturally, but when it presents itself it gives then the opportunity to give the other person a virtual slap in the face - saying, in effect, "I don't WANT your sympathy - take THAT!!" The "offending person" is set up because they have shown what's perceived as a weakness and allows our individual the chance to "get even" with the world. That process will continue in most cases until they have driven away everyone that might have the slightest inclination of caring about them.
I cannot say, of course, precisely how much of this applies to you as each individual is different. But I can clearly see the pattern once again.