The Bible does not say something about intentions. It says proper and modest clothes.
ok then, established...proper and modest are relative.
No. See. If I mention that a certain group disagrees with you and you respond
they are evil and stupid
you may be paraphasing scripture
but you are explaining why they disagree with you. they disagree with you because they are stupid and evil.
If you think everyone is stupid and evil, then your response makes no sense.
If I point out that someone likes a Tv show you dislike and I ask why there is this difference and you answer
they are evil and stupid
no. i think all of us are evil and stupid, and being lustful is one of the many ways we express that.
how can this NOT be judging them as somehow different from you in these ways.
they are different from me in that they are lustful, and either justifying it, or compensating for it, and i am not.
And yes, I know you said we are all sinners, blah, blah. And despite this you judge them.
only because of what i know about myself. so is that really judging? the bible is very clear about discernment, and about sin. can't it simply be a recognition? it isn't that i think i'm a better person, i just think i'm right about this. what do you think? do you think i'm right about this?
So you split him into two. There is the physically attractive man, but that does not affect you sexually, its the love feelings you have that do. How strange and unlikely. I can see saying it is not ALL of why you want to have sex with him, but how can how he looks to you not be a part of your attraction?
I will bet his reasons for wanting to have sex with you include how you look.
It seems to me you still have judgments about sex being bad and love being good like the old Christians you think are evil and stupid.
no, i actually think that sex is the greatest gift god gave us next to jesus, and that we undervalue it.
you can ask my husband if you want. he's a member here. rjr6. he doesn't post on here very much anymore. i can't promise a response but i'll mention it to him.
honestly, the first time i had sex with my husband was within several hours of me meeting him in person for the first time. and while we had been speaking on the phone for several weeks, i didn't choose to have sex with him due to any physical or emotional attraction. at that point, i had been celibate for 8 years, and so that kind of attraction had been a mute point for quite some time. i had sex with him as an act of faith, and at that moment, i considered myself to be his wife, because of what i believe about sex, and because of what i believed about him. since then i have grown to be very physically and emotionally attached to my husband, but it still isn't why i have sex with him. i'm physically and emotionally appreciative of a lot of people, but those people aren't my husband, and i am not their wife. i have a responsibility towards that man, and i am very grateful to have the opportunity.