rape is always violent.
Damn good post, ToR.
Would you not find a strange and threatening man forcing his cock into your mouth and anus worse than a punch on the nose?
It is worse for many reasons PJ, one because of the associations with that area which we are indoctrinated with since birth.
Also because unlike a punch on the nose, intercourse within a relationship is normal, thus this violent assault may disrupt the womans ongoing sexual life for reasons already stated.
This will thus affect her relationship with her partner, have ramifications for any children they share (if the parents separate etc) so on and so forth.
Also the pain could be potentially worse than that of a beating.
As a man you cannot comprehend the pain sensors in that area as you do not possess them.
Regarding vile acts which you say promiscuous women undertake anyway. They are not VILE acts PJ if consentual, they are vile when not consentual and forced. Unless you consider blow jobs and intercourse vile acts when in the context of consenting sex?
However I see you are anti rape, what is becoming clear though in your posts is your deep loathing and lack of respect for promiscuous women. Life experience may be responsible for this attitude so I shall not pass judgement but I will say a promiscuous woman is no more loathesome than a promiscuous male afterall the promiscuous woman is having sex with someone is she not?
If I was refusing to have sex with that person, it would be rape. If I wasn't refusing, and was just sloppy drunk, then it would not be rape.
Yes. If a woman does not say no, nor non-verbally affirms she does not want to have sex through fighting back or something similar, then I must assume she consents to the activity.
The act of approach is a question for consent.
Was he also being violent or showing any signs of aggression?
Yes, I believe it is implicit (and formally explicit) that both partners in a marriage have access to the other's body in a non-violent fashion.
If one does not pay [a prostitute and has sex with her without consent]? If one does and isn't violent? I do not see why the prostitute would construe the act as rape, but perhaps I'd admit it as at least partially so. However, as he is paying her, the act was not nearly as egregious.
Actually, I affirm that there is no moral blame if she is drunk or is married to her "rapist".
I claim that it is only unreasonable for women to be upset about rape if they are promiscious (although I still affirm it is immoral) and I claim that it is foolish for women to provoke certain behaviours but never claim they share in any immorality.
The institution of marriage certainly is for sex. Sex, specifically, to produce children.
Assuming a reasonable attractiveness of the -female-, as well as all other things being equal, chances are I would not significantly care, no.
Yes. It is no longer a rape if her continued non-consent is not present.
Rape is pretty common culturally to say to say that men are vulnerable to tartish looking women.
Please tell me where I blame women for rape? Where do I claim women are evil for being raped?
Yes, rapists need a reason. Of course they do. All actions have reasons. A rapist doesn't rape as some bizarre, uncaused action, stemming from the cosmic interaction of superstrings or some nonsense. He wants to rape that person because he is sexually interested in that person, in one way or another, and possibly with some of the power things you want to add.
If I am drunk, conscious, and I do not show any non-consent or fight back, then yes, the judge should consider me as having consented and throw out the case.
Unconsciousness would be rape.
Most women I have been involved with have had little problem with my sexual politics, thank you.
Kant was pretty on the mark when he said that marriage is basically a license to have access to one another's genitals.
I do not associate with men who would rape, no. I have known women who have been subjected to such, though.
Considering many websites do affirm that a common defense is "she was dressing provocatively", and this is also a common belief, it would seem to imply that many cases have some provocatively-dressed element to them.
I never said it was okay for a promiscious woman (or man) to be raped, only that I cannot see why they would care.
Now tell me why did you delete that image of a fully clothed boy I posted here?
dragon:
It was not a fully clothed boy. You posted an image of a boy in underwear, made up to look like a grown man, complete with chest hair.
The title of this thread is "Attitudes to rape". I don't know what you were trying to imply by posting that picture (which you posted with no comment at all), but I can only assume that you were trying to say that children deserve to be raped, or something similar.
That's why I deleted it.
If you wish to continue this discussion, please contact me by PM.
Oh I know marriage does not give this right to any person... but I was just confused on whether rape can actually happen when the two made the huge jump to get married.
I do not know what, but I was considering only heterosexual rape. I think most men dream of being raped by female's, especially the "hot" ones. I am sorry I was not clear about that.
Well I do not hold to the belief that women that dress "skimpy" should accept the fact that they might get raped, but I think they need to understand that dressing in such a way opens some sort of "door" in a man's brain...
Did she know conciously that she was putting her body out like that? Does she crave lots of sexual attention? If all this is "yes," are we right to place even one-tenth of one percent of blame on her? I propose yes
Question: Is rape sexual contact that is not consented to the entire time? Or just not consented to at first encounter? If it's the former, then we are both working on different definitions (sort of). At times I assume the first definition, and other times the latter. Maybe I should fix that,
It makes me wonder why some people think that a drunk man cannot be raped, whereas a drunk woman can be.
Is it against the law to look at a pretty girl?
Respect? He didn't even know you, did he? And for all you know, he treated you exactly like he's been treating other women for years.
Personally, I think you should have been inwardly flattered, without showing anything to him, of course. He found you attractive enough to look at you, that must mean something ....even for a woman like you!
I few were heavily intoxicated or drugged up I would consider them not capable of rational thought or action and if truly penitant then perhaps they deserve a small break.
My problem comes from how the charge of rape suddenly shifts our legal process. It's nothing official, mind you, but it happens.
Suddenly when the accusation of rape is leveled the defendant has to prove his innocence. The prosecution gets a cake walk. This is a total reversal of the way we handle everything else in criminal law. It's just not right.
Why is a load of crock, that I point out that in these instances that the accused is stripped of their rights. Now I am not saying it is intentional and I am not saying it is the only time such things happen, but you hear it more in rape cases. It's an emotional and social pressure. We dodn't dare question the victim's integrity becuas they have suffered enough, so the defense is hindered.
I've never bought that "rape isn't about sex" BS. When I see an atractive woman, I want to have sex with her in the same way I want to eat a juicy steak when I smell someone cooking one. I don't rape the attractive woman for the same reason I don't steal the steak and eat it. It would be wrong. It is illegal. But were I to steal the food or rape the woman it would be to satisfy the physical need, not for some BS psychological reason.
But so whats wrong with him having chest hair visible when women do the same thing?
you ( as I believe) are saying that it is ok for women to wear such clothes and that if they get raped it wasnt their fault not in any way.
Therefore why is it wrong for that image of a boy with a little chest hair visible to be deleted off sciforums? Its not wrong in any way...just as women's revealing short clothes is not wrong in any way.
dragon:
Did you obtain this boy's consent to post his picture?
Women who dress in a "sexy" manner do so voluntarily. This boy did not volunteer to have his image used a thread about rape, to be painted by you as some kind of sexual object.
What are you talking about, dragon? How are women who wear revealing clothing hurting you?
Theoryofrelativity said:Regards dress, men view women in skimpy clothing as 'easy lays, so if you do not wish to be seen as such do not dress as such. It is all very well asserting a right to dress how we please but denying the effect it has on others is ignorance. BUt still no licence for rape.
Prince_James said:Provocative dress = Culturally sexually arousing = More likely to provoke sexual actions, including rape. Yes.
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Women who make themselves sexually focused are attempting to convince men to have sex with them. Convincing the wrong man to have sex with them produces rape.
Certain behaviours, manners of dress, actions...all have a sexual overtone. Engaging in such things sexualizes the atmosphere more than not. Unless of course you think seduction has no foundation at all.
Theoryofrelativity said:If a woman did not say no to sex, I am assuming she also did not resist in other ways, thus how is lack of consent in such an instance understood by the male? Particulalry if the people concerned are in a relationship etc?
Draqon, you seriously have some issues with women. I'd advise you to get some help before you get yourself into serious trouble. You made a statement in regards to how I only care about women and not men. I have been involved in so many cases of sexual assaults where a man was the victim and all of them are violent cases where the victim has been scarred mentally and physically for life. It's even worse with children.
Yes some rape reports are false and when it is proven as such, action is taken against the person who alleged a rape occured.
Just because you have a hatred of women does not mean that all rapes are somehow false or that the woman made it up. The majority of rapes and sexual assaults on both men and women are never reported because of the sense of shame and guilt the victim might feel. The reason the victim may feel such shame or guilt is because they fear how they will be judged, and judged they are.. even by many of you in this thread.