Are you an introvert or extrovert?

I like this simple poem, yet it saddens me that the writer feels the need to defend, being an introvert. As if we need ''fixing.'' :redface:


 
Seattle said:
That part actually turned out to be easy and low stress. It was just part of the funeral home service. Not to get graphic but your loved one dies, is taken to your choice of a funeral home to be embalmed (or cremated) and placed in a casket.

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Thanks. I was for some reason under the impression that it would be a lot more involved.

My mom is still alive, of course, it's just that she's always reminding me that she'll "soon" be dead. I'm 3000 miles away, while my sister lives only 20 miles from her. And unfortunately, I can't really trust my sister to "manage" much of anything.

My mom is somewhat like me, but nowhere near as extreme. I'd prefer to be ground up and turned into fertilizer when I'm dead, but since that's (probably) not an option, I'll take whatever is closest. And funerals and crap like that mean absolutely nothing to me. Regardless, I don't like being disrespectful towards people, living or dead--unless I really can't stand them--and my mom is, at least, somewhat more conventional. So I figure I'll be doing some of that stuff.

I'm just glad there's no religious component. I would do it if I had to, but, apparently, I'm not very good at masking my true feelings on matters.
 
Lebanese-American writer and poet Kahlil Gibran wrote of struggles and insights many introverts will relate to.

For introverts whose sweet solitude has soured into bitter loneliness:

“Solitude has soft, silky hands, but with strong fingers it grasps the heart and makes it ache with sorrow.” ― Kahlil Gibran, The Broken Wings

“In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things, does the heart find its morning and is refreshed.” ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

For introverts who overthink and can’t let go:

“Forgetfulness is a form of freedom.” ― Kahlil Gibran

“And God said “Love Your Enemy,” and I obeyed him and loved myself.” ― Kahlil Gibran, The Broken Wings

For introverts who are afraid to love again:

“Darkness may hide the trees and the flowers from the eyes but it cannot hide love from the soul.” ― Khalil Gibran, Love Letters in the Sand: The Love Poems of Khalil Gibran

“It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone… but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.” ― Kahlil Gibran

“And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.” ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

For introverts who care too much what others think:

“Travel and tell no one, live a true love story and tell no one, live happily and tell no one, people ruin beautiful things.”― Kahlil Gibran

For introverts who would rather be alone than endure mindless chatter:

“I wash my hands of those who imagine chattering to be knowledge, silence to be ignorance, and affection to be art.” ― Kahlil Gibran

“And in much of your talking, thinking is half murdered. For thought is a bird of space, that in a cage of words may indeed unfold its wings but cannot fly.” ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

For introverts who feel guilty for asking for space:

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls… And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

https://introvertspring.com/kahlil-gibran-quotes-love-loneliness/
 
parmalee said:
Thanks. I was for some reason under the impression that it would be a lot more involved.

My mom is still alive, of course, it's just that she's always reminding me that she'll "soon" be dead. I'm 3000 miles away, while my sister lives only 20 miles from her. And unfortunately, I can't really trust my sister to "manage" much of anything.

My mom is somewhat like me, but nowhere near as extreme. I'd prefer to be ground up and turned into fertilizer when I'm dead, but since that's (probably) not an option, I'll take whatever is closest. And funerals and crap like that mean absolutely nothing to me. Regardless, I don't like being disrespectful towards people, living or dead--unless I really can't stand them--and my mom is, at least, somewhat more conventional. So I figure I'll be doing some of that stuff.

I'm just glad there's no religious component. I would do it if I had to, but, apparently, I'm not very good at masking my true feelings on matters.
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It's tough just because of the emotional component of losing your mom and having to balance what "society" expects. My mom wanted to know that everything was taken care of (I lived 3,000 miles away as well) so I flew home and took care of picking out the casket and things like that, at her request, while she was still alive.

Just do whatever would please your mom when it's time and put up with the rest and at least you'll feel that you did your best.
 
wegs said:
I like this simple poem, yet it saddens me that the writer feels the need to defend, being an introvert. As if we need ''fixing.'' :redface:


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As you know and as you are implying with your comments, being an introvert doesn't define much about a person other than the recharging thing so there are timid introvert and bold introvert. There are introverts lacking in self-confidencce and those that are not.

It's really doesn't tell you a lot about a person.
 
Seattle said:
As you know and as you are implying with your comments, being an introvert doesn't define much about a person other than the recharging thing so there are timid introvert and bold introvert. There are introverts lacking in self-confidencce and those that are not.

It's really doesn't tell you a lot about a person.
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I think the poem though indicates that the author doesn’t like the words “coward” and “lonely” being used to describe “introvert.”
 
wegs said:
I think the poem though indicates that the author doesn’t want “coward” and “lonely” to be synonymous with “introvert.”
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That's true but that wouldn't even occur to me unless someone brought it up. Does anyone think you are a coward? I don't think anyone has ever thought that about me (I have no way of knowing of course).
 
Seattle said:
That's true but that wouldn't even occur to me unless someone brought it up. Does anyone think you are a coward? I don't think anyone has ever thought that about me (I have no way of knowing of course).
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No...I didn’t write the poem lol
 
Seattle said:
Too cowardly to write a poem, just as I'd expect from a introvert. Why do you hate sciforums...
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You’re not an introvert ...you’re one of those internet bullies!
 
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So many of my extraverted friends are struggling with working from home. With Covid19, so many are working from home now but it doesn’t bother me. Sure, I like my office friendships and meeting with clients, but I’m also fine with Zoom calls. It has to be tough to be an extravert when it comes to not being able to recharge as you wish. :redface:
 
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wegs said:
So many of my extraverted friends are struggling with working from home. With Covid19, so many are working from home now but it doesn’t bother me. Sure, I like my office friendships and meeting with clients, but I’m also fine with Zoom calls. It has to be tough to be an extravert when it comes to not being able to recharge as you wish. :redface:
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Interesting.....I'm quite OK with isolation, with the brief journey to the Supermarket....I love watching a good old movie...I'm experimenting with my cooking [some notable failures] reading a book at this time " Gravity's Fatal Attraction" by Mitch Begalman and Sir Martin Rees [second read btw]
The Mrs when she finally retires [which due to a bad back could be anytime soon] finds it difficult, as do funnily enough, some other Fijians that I know. Perhaps because Fijians by nature and living in close proximity to each other in small villages, are a very gregarious race. It will be difficult for her.
 
wegs said:
not being able to recharge
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being forced to change
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choosing to change
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compromising to agree TO change
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wegs said:
So many of my extroverted(extraverted ?) friends are struggling with working from home.
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are you extra vert or ultra vert or minor vert
or just extra

compartmentalising social group normalisational habituation
hhmm ...

study them
ask them all separately how they feel their self confidence has been effected by working from home
 
RainbowSingularity said:
being forced to change
verses
choosing to change
verses
compromising to agree TO change
verses
verses


are you extra vert or ultra vert or minor vert
or just extra

compartmentalising social group normalisational habituation
hhmm ...

study them
ask them all separately how they feel their self confidence has been effected by working from home
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Not “change,” but recharge.
 
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