I've noticed several younger sciforums users boasting in almost every thread in which they participate about how incredibly great they are, and declaring themselves to be "alpha males". Of course, such adolescent chest-puffing does not make it so.
A certain young woman of sciforums told me that females are indeed attracted to confident males, "alpha males" as she also said.
Now, I have never in my life, as far as I can remember, been interested in such group-dominance games. Boasting has always seemed to me a sign of weakness, a desperate plea for attention. When kids shout about how good in the sack they are, how incredibly intelligent they are, how handsome they are, et cetera, it simply seems weak to me. A request for attention to alleviate insecurity.
I have observed such behaviour among my friends, my various social groups. Some definitely take the lead and some definitely follow. I do not take part in such games. I don't care who gets the good seat in the car, I don't care who talks the loudest, I don't care who runs the fastest. I know what I can do, and for the most part I don't wish to do what I can do for philosophical reasons. I will not puff up my chest like some little birdy to impress women. If a woman is serious, she will get to know who I am, rather than be impressed by the bright little shiny things I lay about. (Okay, enough with the bird-behaviour metaphors.)
So, my question: Does anyone past puberty actually give a damn about such basic behaviour patterns?
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Actually, I recall a good example. A BBQ at a friend's place. After a few drinks, many of the lads decided to play wrestling in the back yard. Typical show-off-for-the-girls stuff, such as you might see in primary school. Amazingly basic behaviour, very primitive.
I did not take part in the wrestling, for several reasons:
1) I do not know how to fight without hurting people. I did not wish to hurt anyone.
2) I saw how the girls looked upon this activity, thinking it was really quite pathetic.
3) I simply don't have the need to "prove myself" like that.
When I see other guys trying to act tough at each other, threatening to beat each other up and such, I do not have the urge to join in. When someone threatens me in such a manner, I don't really care, and I don't try to show them how tough I am in return. I know what I can do, and I really don't want to hurt people.
A certain young woman of sciforums told me that females are indeed attracted to confident males, "alpha males" as she also said.
Now, I have never in my life, as far as I can remember, been interested in such group-dominance games. Boasting has always seemed to me a sign of weakness, a desperate plea for attention. When kids shout about how good in the sack they are, how incredibly intelligent they are, how handsome they are, et cetera, it simply seems weak to me. A request for attention to alleviate insecurity.
I have observed such behaviour among my friends, my various social groups. Some definitely take the lead and some definitely follow. I do not take part in such games. I don't care who gets the good seat in the car, I don't care who talks the loudest, I don't care who runs the fastest. I know what I can do, and for the most part I don't wish to do what I can do for philosophical reasons. I will not puff up my chest like some little birdy to impress women. If a woman is serious, she will get to know who I am, rather than be impressed by the bright little shiny things I lay about. (Okay, enough with the bird-behaviour metaphors.)
So, my question: Does anyone past puberty actually give a damn about such basic behaviour patterns?
EDIT:
Actually, I recall a good example. A BBQ at a friend's place. After a few drinks, many of the lads decided to play wrestling in the back yard. Typical show-off-for-the-girls stuff, such as you might see in primary school. Amazingly basic behaviour, very primitive.
I did not take part in the wrestling, for several reasons:
1) I do not know how to fight without hurting people. I did not wish to hurt anyone.
2) I saw how the girls looked upon this activity, thinking it was really quite pathetic.
3) I simply don't have the need to "prove myself" like that.
When I see other guys trying to act tough at each other, threatening to beat each other up and such, I do not have the urge to join in. When someone threatens me in such a manner, I don't really care, and I don't try to show them how tough I am in return. I know what I can do, and I really don't want to hurt people.
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