Bells
Staff member
But yet, you seem to think destroying one is justified and the other, not justified.Actually I don't think its acceptable even in such cases, but its more justifiable. A person born of rape is as innocent as a person born of love, don't you think?
It is that stance that I cannot quite grasp. Why is it justifiable to destroy one foetus but not another?
I was not given a choice. I was told, right to my face in the most distressing time of my pregnancy that their first and only priority was to ensure my survival, even after I begged them to save the child first (ie get the child out and make sure he was alright before they worried about me). To my doctors, my son's life was secondary at that point in time. My husband was rushing back to the hospital and was not there to give any form of consent and I suspect they thought me too hysterical at that time to make an informed choice, so they made it for me.In the case of choosing between the mothers life and the childs life, thats a doctors decision to advise on such, but they always ask for informed consent and then its upto the woman or her guardian. You've been through this, would you have considered it acceptable to abort the child if it was a decision between the two of you?
Granted, I was a tad hysterical.. I was calm until I heard the midwife swear and start screaming for help when she saw what had happened to me. Then I admit, some panic started to set in as I realised the gravity of the situation and then when they couldn't get the baby's heartbeat on the foetal monitor as I was rushed down the corridor at breakneck speed, my first and only thought was to get my son out and revive him at all costs and I remember the panic I felt when I started to realise that may not happen and then the utter devastation as they rushed me into theater and told me as I begged them to save my son, that my son was no longer a priority. By that time, they had gotten the heartbeat so I knew my son was still alive. And it was full intent to ensure he stayed that way. But due to my.. ermm.. slightly stressed state, they told me no. And then they put me under.
Would I react the same way today? Yes. Without a doubt. But it should still be my choice to make. It still rankles me that they didn't allow me to have that voice. But we both made it, so they obviously did something to ensure my son's survival at that time.
But that is me. I cannot and would never speak for another woman with something like this. It should be her decision to make and she should not face the repercussions and hatred of society for choosing her life and her wellbeing first, regardless of the reasons why she made the decision to have an abortion.