Essentially what you are saying is that any woman who dares to wear something "sexy" in public might as well just hang a sign around her neck saying "Come and get me, men! You're free to rape me if you want!"
Am I right?
No. This is an analysis far too simplistic.
Because they feel - irrationally - that they were partly responsible. That they could have done something to stop the crime from happening.
If a person is truly innocent, they do not feel guilty, ashamed, nor hate themselves.
The only issue is
what exactly are they innocent of, and what exactly they feel ashamed about or guilty for.
Let us take the example with the black man who gets assaulted, and who afterwards feels guilty, ashamed, or hates himself.
If he concludes "I was assaulted because I am black," then the shame and guilt he feels about being assaulted are possibly actually the shame, guilt, self-hatred that he already feels for being black.
The assault just, very painfully, emphasizes the guilt, shame or self-hatred that the person already feels.
Further, many people believe "I am in control of what happens to me."
For years, this kind of reasoning has been promoted by the popular culture and the self-help movement too.
And yet reality teaches us that this is not so.
The shame, guilt and self-hatred that a victim - any victim - feels after the crime has been committed, possibly pertains to exactly this mistaken belief that they should have been able to prevent it.
The difficulty with hardship and violence is that when they happen, it is difficult to think clearly and act wisely.
So when under durress, people sometimes, possibly often, wrongly connect what exactly is about what exactly.
This is true about victims as well as observers.
Why are you so keen to blame the victims of rape?
But I am not.
Can't you see that?
What kind of less-than-noble intention regarding sex do you think your average 4-year-old girl might have, wynn?
Probably none about sex, but possibly some not so useful ones as far as interactions with people are concerned.
For example, children sometimes still think it is not so wrong to go with a stranger who offers candy.
A belief that can have devastating consequences when acted upon.
To take an analogy, suppose that for whatever reason you decide to leave your car unlocked while it is parked in a "bad" area. Suppose it is stolen. The perpetrator is caught and arrested and put on trial.
Do you think it would be reasonable for the thief to get a reduced sentence, say, because you left your car unlocked? i.e. your "contributory negligence" somehow caused the theft?
I have emphasized several times that the issue is not legal or penal responsibility of the victim!
The fact is that even if the law apprehends and sentences the perpetrator, this does not automatically make the pain go away for the victim.
In order for the victim to recover, they have to find ways to think and act about the experienced violence that allows them to move on with their lives.
This is especially clear when we consider that the law may not be able to punish the perpetrator.