But back on topic, we in the West are so outraged by this "blame the victim" mentality that we overreact and refuse to ever apportion even the tiniest bit of blame to a rape victim.
you couldn't be more wrong. this 'blame the victim' is much more prevalent in actuality even with the outward lip service otherwise which is why it's so horrible.
people tend to be suspicious of the victim, sorry for the perpetrator for being tempted, think the victim inticed them etc. all this because nature tends to be predatorial so it's the minority who truly is empathetic. there is a truly cruel and sick twist as victims of sexual abuse are often seen as filthy or deserving for having been the victim of another's lasciviousness and that their own sexuality is to blame. usually it's people who have not had the experience or people who are so disgusted/ashamed that they also blame the victim for being a victim since it's easier, which is unhealthy and degenerate when in actuality it was the rapist who was unhealthy and degenerate. it's completely unfair, even diabolical.
the problem is until society stops being wishywashy and hypocritical about ethics, blaming the victim will always be the real undercurrent which makes it even harder for victims to cope as they already feel responsible for something they shouldn't.
and most victims of the most horrible sexual abuse which tends to be ongoing which makes it even worse as well as them knowing you personally tend to be younger people such as children and teenagers. this is because they have less power, are more vulnerable and are generally dependent in some way to the known perp.
it is much easier to cope with a rape or assault from a stranger than with someone that knows you and has groomed you as the violation even takes on deeper implications and damage. it is personal terrorism with the perp playing mind games, training you to be self-defeating and obscuring boundaries and to feel responsible or 'dirty' that you deserved it. their dirt they burdened you to carry.
this has the effect of the person unconsciously giving off these signals which also compounds the sense of unconscious or subtle or even overt blame from others onto the victim because that is what others only 'see' on the superficial level. this is what the perpetrator wanted.
it's quite frigging simple: in the metaphysical world (heh), if a predator knifes your face and causes an ugly wound. people (because most are stupid or uncaring or evil themselves) will automatically blame the victim. after all, the victim is the one who has the ugly wound, not the perpetrator. can't see anything on them as thier malevolence is a hidden weapon and not a wound. the victim is the one where they smell the blood on them and it incites them to blame them further, furthering the damage and deepening the wound. adding further insult to injury is victims tend to attract, even unconsciously, no matter what they do, other perverts. this is because perverts and other predators can sense that one has been a victim before so they can see or sense the damage and are opportunistic. it is so sick that these types of people can view the victim as something that is rightfully theirs and may even view the victim's lack of interest or even disgust/repulsion and especially fear as enticing and seductive. this is because perverts are turned on by helplessness or lack of power in others to the point of delusion that the other wants to give them power by giving up power. they disregard the person's feelings and only focus on the point of vulnerability as if it's a willing invitation because that vulnerabilty has been stripped of it's defenses. hideous and disgusting but true. this occurs on a subterranean level but victims know this while others cannot see it or are oblivious to it's goings on. why would they? they aren't being targeted.
as backward as it is, that's the universe we live in. it takes a person who truly cares about the truth to look further for it.
Some of the Eastern philosophers tell us that we can reduce both physical and psychological trauma by practicing their methods, perhaps going into a trance or something like that. I wouldn't want to be the one to test it, although I have to admit that these are the men and women who are able to set themselves on fire to protest unfair political treatment, so it must work for them.
this is a form of disassociation. some people pass out if they are in extreme pain as a defense mechanism or some can disassociate mentally/emotionally which is another defense mechanism but these are tricky because it doesn't always occur and one cannot always do this or be prepared to do this. i mean, people are not trained to disassociate seriously and this is very hard to do. as well, children and young people didn't have a chance. pul-leeze..
I am not sorry, but it is ALWAYS THE PERPETRATORS FUALT unless they are under extreme duress.
Unless somebody is threatening your life or the lives of others what you do is you choice. It doesn;t matter wheter the purse was sitting there, the girl was running around in a thong, or the door was unlocked. If it wasn;t for the perpetrator nothing would have happened.
the real truth right there.
