Please excuse the long post! I have trouble leaving things unsaid, even when they're not necessary. Obsessive-compulsive writer alert.
stretched said:
Jenyar said:
"We can't deserve forgiveness."
This statement I reject out of hand. I don’t buy into any "born in sin" twaddle. I say this not because of "pride" or whatever else Christians see as resistance to doctrine. I say this because I have seen, many, many times how people who embrace non religious, but "spiritual" ways, and have a honest desire to improve their behaviour, have changed in character and in honesty. Long-term. This term places a condition on the aspect of positive change and I suppose in the term "repentance".
I think you're stretching my argument a bit too far here, stretched
. The observation that we can't deserve forgiveness doesn't require the premise of original sin. It depends on
guilt, whatever its origin is (a law typically makes someone who tansgresses it, guilty; one can transgress against love in the same way).
Let's say someone - anyone - makes a mistake. A man gets drunk one night and cheats on his wife for the first time in their 10 year marriage. He's guilty of infidelity and possibly adultery. What must he do to
deserve her forgiveness?
Justice is defined as giving everyone what they deserve (their due). When you deserve something, it is
due to you, and witholding it would be a crime. That means if the man did all the right things, said the all the right words and went through the proper motions, his wife
has to forgive him, because he has done everything to
deserve forgiveness. He doesn't even have to be sorry - in fact, he can keep cheating on her - as long as he knows he can deserve her forgiveness whether she likes it or not. Do you understand the problem?
Jenyar said:
"Even the sincerest intention to love, with forgiveness and acceptance and gratitude and all the bells and whistles, means nothing if it isn't combined with a real commitment, and where necessary, change."
Acceptance would be the achievement of equilibrium in terms of the ego. Where "my will" becomes transformed into a greater ineffable "universal will".
In response to your statement above, are you implying by the word "commitment" the process of being "reborn" as a Christian and committing your life to one Jesus Christ as described in the Bible? Speaking hypothetically, I doubt that an infinitely loving deity (as perceived by Christians) would place silly conditions like "worship me" or acknowledge my "authority" or burn as a prerequisite for successful spiritual or moral growth.
And you
should doubt that - anyone with a sense of fairness would. But it is a gross injustice to think of God's commandments that way.
My problem with the kind of acceptance you mention is that it proposes both parties settle for less (your "ego" is a smaller, more selfish will, not a greater more universal one). It's like hot and cold being mixed to make this lukewarm equilibrium - in time, it will just turn cold altogether. (An inverted 'frog in slowly boiling water' scenario). Likewise, some success with spiritual and moral growth can certainly be attained once the bar has been lowered this way. But only if your premise is that all we exist for, is to "grow a little". That leads to the conclusion that as long as we did our best, God (or the "ineffable universal will")
must be satisfied with that,
must forgive what we couldn't do: We have deserved what
could be deserved, and we can't be expected to do more than that. "Things are as they should be." That's quite a statement of faith. Imagine the husband above saying that, after having achieved equilibrium with his ineffible will, and his wife's reaction.
Where acceptance makes more sense is with
compromise. There are two independent parties, two definite wills, but while both parties agree that the situation isn't as it should ebe, they commit to do what is necessary to work reconciliation. There, "my will"
does take second place to "our will", without creating a new, watered-down version of both. As long as the problem itself remains unaddressed, acceptance and even compromise will only be temporary solutions.
As a matter of fact, the instinctive resistance we have against such an ultimatum is that it supposes our submission has been earned without our consent, and may rightfully be demanded from us, "or else". We don't want to be cheated out of a choice any more than that man's wife wants to be cheated into having to forgive her husband. We instinctively
know that love - relationships - require more than just following a set of requirements to satisfaction. So does God. We don't want our very
identity compromised by someone else's will, but neither does God. If we, who don't even know who we are half the time, resist being manipulated or dismissed, how much more won't God, who knows exactly who He is?
The Bible is nothing other than a testament of the relationship between the Creator and his creation. He didn't create people to grow into these hyper-spiritual, enlightened beings, that wasn't our purpose. We certainly have immense potential, and many people are banging their heads against a wall trying to achieve "higher" states, but it counts for nothing if God doesn't sustain us. Without Him, we automatically become subject to death and judgement. God warned Israel: "
My people are destroyed for their lack of knowledge; they go into exile for their lack of knowledge... Therefore hell has enlarged its throat and opened its mouth without measure" (paraphrase of Hos. 4:6 and Is. 5:13-15).
As the Creator of life, it's not out of malice that life is not possible without Him, or that the life He created inevitably goes into a state of ignorance and self-destruction when it doesn't acknowledge Him. And as the only objective Judge over mankind, it's not out of spite that He will not let sin pass just because people think they've done enough to deserve forgiveness. He wants a relationship with us because that's what He created us for, not having that is missing our purpose, and missing our purpose has consequences. If God wanted robots that only respond as programmed, He would have created us that way.
The compromise God came to - to reconcile the world with himself - was to let his authority
serve us on our terms, to suffer on our side, showing clearly that sin was against His will and that our "terms" are actually the problem: sin doesn't have an independent existence. God's love for us suffers under sin, and is often so obscured by it, that only our faith will allow us to see it. Because so many people have faith in themselves and in idols, all they can do is either accept suffering, or try to explain it away (like calling it an illusion). Jesus acknowledged that suffering was a reality, and showed us how God deals with it: by faith. God
is dealing with sin, He is going to destroy its effects, but we have to turn away from it before that happens. If we're part of the problem, the solution
won't be good for us - there's no point in complaining about it.
Committing to God means we acknowledge the problem - and our own part in it - and are asking him to
help us get rid of sin. This will obviously involve sacrifice, obedience, spiritual growth and moral responsibility. So these things aren't arbitrary requirements, ends in themselves, they are necessary means to an end: a relationship that promises us a meaningful and purposeful passage through life
as it is, whatever it is, even through suffering and death. Since equilibrium has already been restored by God, through Jesus, acceptance of Him leaves us free to give attention to other people. Without God, we are left to strive for perfection ourselves, with all the performance anxiety and doubt inherent to it, or to set the bar lower and "accept" that there is no such thing (i.e. everything is perfect and we just don't realize it, or nothing is perfect and our attempts at perfection, moral or otherwise, is irrational - and unreasonable to
expect from anyone).